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Is it racist....

pes said:
What you are sexually attracted to is highly individual.
Your motivation could be racist but it also might not be.
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Very true indeed. I just don't find non whites attractive (in my opinion).
 
But black labradors deserve love too...

If its only sexual atraction, I'd say no. Of course if a colored person is flirting with you and you say 'I'm not atracted to non whites' I can see how that comes across as racist, better go with I'm not interested, or you're not my type.

A straight guy is not homophobic cause he's not atracted to gay men.
 
Steve1982nl said:
But black labradors deserve love too...

If its only sexual atraction, I'd say no. Of course if a colored person is flirting with you and you say 'I'm not atracted to non whites' I can see how that comes across as racist, better go with I'm not interested, or you're not my type.

A straight guy is not homophobic cause he's not atracted to gay men.
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I tend to walk away from people who try and flirt with me in person.
 
I met a girl once who told me she wasn’t into older men but she’d let them lick her if that was good enough for them. Apparently some desperados would actually show up, lick her and leave.

I guess I’m just suggesting workarounds to a basic problem of not being attracted but still wanting to be an equal opportunity lover, lol.
 
Depends on how ya said it. I've definitely encountered the "all blanks are ugly".
POC in Western society have a history and living experience of being considered less attractive then whites. White beauty standard industry makes billions off skin bleaching cream, relaxer, weave, eye fold surgery etc.

You guys seem progressive on this site, especially when it comes to LGBT+. Have that same energy for people or color, please.
 
Steve1982nl said:
But black labradors deserve love too...

If its only sexual atraction, I'd say no. Of course if a colored person is flirting with you and you say 'I'm not atracted to non whites' I can see how that comes across as racist, better go with I'm not interested, or you're not my type.

A straight guy is not homophobic cause he's not atracted to gay men.
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Just so you know we don't say "colored person" anymore. It is an antiquated term.
 
I'mUnderUrBed said:
Depends on how ya said it. I've definitely encountered the "all blanks are ugly".
POC in Western society have a history and living experience of being considered less attractive then whites. White beauty standard industry makes billions off skin bleaching cream, relaxer, weave, eye fold surgery etc.

You guys seem progressive on this site, especially when it comes to LGBT+. Have that same energy for people or color, please.
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I don't consider them ugly. And black men age way better than white people do.

But, in the same way, an unreasonable amount of white woman seems to evolve to unbearable karans, the black equivalent to this is the stereotype fat, extremely undereducated (aka dumb) , unreasonable loud bitch with long, ugly, colored fingernails, that spews a constant stream of slang at you while eradicly twitching around.
Sure, it's a stereotype, that don't mean, all of them are like this, but the ones beeing recognized the most by society are.

I think, it's totaly fine to not date someone, if you are not attracted tothe culture they usualy confront you with, or if you are just not attracted in general to their "race".

I the same way I don't blame anyone for not dating me, a white, fat, lazy dude, that has no hair left on his head. It's fine.

Having dating preferences does not mean you have to hate each other. I don't date people who smoke, no matter what. But still I like my dad, and the friend of my mom, who both smoke sometimes.
 
Schuppentier said:
Well, alot of loud snowflakes would consider you worse than Hitler for stating something like this.

We life in a weird world lately...
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Nah, the snowflakes don't care about gay men. Gay men are still he/his so absolutely not intetesting for snowflakes other then labelling as enemy.
 
This thread seems like it'd be a better fit for Dumpster Fire

But to answer the question: I agree that it's not racist to have preferences, but it is very easy to convey that preference in a racist way/with racist language
 
Steve1982nl said:
But black labradors deserve love too...

If its only sexual atraction, I'd say no. Of course if a colored person is flirting with you and you say 'I'm not atracted to non whites' I can see how that comes across as racist, better go with I'm not interested, or you're not my type.

A straight guy is not homophobic cause he's not atracted to gay men.
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Pretty much the response one can give is to simply say "thank you for the interest but no thanks"
 
Schuppentier said:
I don't consider them ugly. And black men age way better than white people do.

But, in the same way, an unreasonable amount of white woman seems to evolve to unbearable karans, the black equivalent to this is the stereotype fat, extremely undereducated (aka dumb) , unreasonable loud bitch with long, ugly, colored fingernails, that spews a constant stream of slang at you while eradicly twitching around.
Sure, it's a stereotype, that don't mean, all of them are like this, but the ones beeing recognized the most by society are.

I think, it's totaly fine to not date someone, if you are not attracted tothe culture they usualy confront you with, or if you are just not attracted in general to their "race".

I the same way I don't blame anyone for not dating me, a white, fat, lazy dude, that has no hair left on his head. It's fine.

Having dating preferences does not mean you have to hate each other. I don't date people who smoke, no matter what. But still I like my dad, and the friend of my mom, who both smoke sometimes.
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That's what makes you racist because the features, cultures and values are just as varried as any other culture. Discriminate against a fat person who's lazy is acceptable because that's something you can change and nobody cares that your bald, just shave the rest. Black men have been doing it for decades.
Black gingers, tan white etc. if you find someone attractive but find out they're a different race than you and then automatically discredit them you're racist. I would consider it implicit bias because most people who think like that are decent. They clearly just have some issues that were probably taught to them early on in life.
 
I'mUnderUrBed said:
That's what makes you racist because the features, cultures and values are just as varried as any other culture. Discriminate against a fat person who's lazy is acceptable because that's something you can change and nobody cares that your bald, just shave the rest. Black men have been doing it for decades.
Black gingers, tan white etc. if you find someone attractive but find out they're a different race than you and then automatically discredit them you're racist. I would consider it implicit bias because most people who think like that are decent. They clearly just have some issues that were probably taught to them early on in life.
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Nope.
Iam culture-ist at most, if that exist. I don't whant to deal with a partner who beliefs absolutely bogus bullshit, just because he/she was raised like that. If you are unable to question your own belief system, your own culture and heritage you where raised in, I consider that a major character flaw.

Maybe iam biased, because I was raised with the freedom to make up my mind about the world myself, without my parants influencing me. Maybe iam privileged, because I was allowed to make my own mistakes, and deal with the consequences from the beginning.

And again I never said I wouldnt someone who is of a particular color or heritage. But that dating won't go far as soon they start with weird superstitions or absolutely unreasonable beliefs. Iam fine with beeing solo.
Not all people need someone in their life. If I ever find someone, great. If not, also great.
 
as someone who is not white---i dont think its racist to have preferences for certain features or characteristics, but completely regarding an entire race as "unattractive" is racist. if someone had all the perfect qualities but was not white would you reject them? it really shouldn't be that big of a determining factor; someones race doesn't inherently make them behave a certain way (although i recognize there's influence), so why group everyone together?
 
A women once called me a misogynist cause Im gay. She believed that being gay was a coverup for men who hated and abused women.

I laughed so hard I almost fell over. My straight ass homies defended me and told her off. People can be truely delusional
 
mariosanchezz said:
as someone who is not white---i dont think its racist to have preferences for certain features or characteristics, but completely regarding an entire race as "unattractive" is racist. if someone had all the perfect qualities but was not white would you reject them? it really shouldn't be that big of a determining factor; someones race doesn't inherently make them behave a certain way (although i recognize there's influence), so why group everyone together?
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Why can't people not think in black and white? I don't care what the race of the person is! If I meet somebody who is as black as the night, but does NOT have a single typical annoying thing that Usualy comes with it, sure I would date them. The probability that this ever happens is like winning the lottery twice in a row.

All races usualy (NOT ALWAYS 100% EVER) come with certain cultural balast, be life system, set of traits etc. I just can't or don't whant to deal with.

An example: The chance, that a person from India has an Indian accent and Indian superstitious believes is almost garantued. It's not a 100%, but you all can't deny that it is very, very certain. That means, I am Usualy not atracted to Indians. That does NOT mean I would never date someone, BECAUSE they are Indian. It's just a preference that I personally have, and that it is incredible unlikely that I ever end up with someone from India. That does not makes me racist against Indians.
It would make me racist, if someone In my life would be together with someone from India, and I would do something against them. THAT would be racist.

My brother has a Jewish wife. I don't care, if they are happy, iam happy.
Would I have a Jewish wife? Hell no.
Would I work for a jew? Yes
Would I sit in a restaurant next table to a Jewish family? Sure
Would I complain about a Jewish busdriver because they are jewish? No.

Just because I don't whant religion or certain cultural charged factors in my personal life, does not mean iam racist. It's only racist if I would judge others for it, or treat others different because of their race or heritage OUTSIDE of my direct personal life.
 
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Schuppentier said:
All races usualy (NOT ALWAYS 100% EVER) come with certain cultural balast, be life system, set of traits etc. I just can't or don't whant to deal with.

An example: The chance, that a person from India has an Indian accent and Indian superstitious believes is almost garantued. It's not a 100%, but you all can't deny that it is very, very certain. That means, I am Usualy not atracted to Indians. That does NOT mean I would never date someone, BECAUSE they are Indian. It's just a preference that I personally have, and that it is incredible unlikely that I ever end up with someone from India. That does not makes me racist against Indians.
It would make me racist, if someone In my life would be together with someone from India, and I would do something against them. THAT would be racist.

My brother has a Jewish wife. I don't care, if they are happy, iam happy.
Would I have a Jewish wife? Hell no.
Would I work for a jew? Yes
Would I sit in a restaurant next table to a Jewish family? Sure
Would I complain about a Jewish busdriver because they are jewish? No.

Just because I don't whant religion or certain cultural charged factors in my personal life, does not mean iam racist. It's only racist if I would judge others for it, or treat others different because of their race or heritage OUTSIDE of my direct personal life.
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maybe because an issue this nuanced can't be explained in black and white. i do not think its racist to have a preference, as i said. what you are saying goes into racist territory. how can you be so convinced that a single race is inferior or undesirable because of their racial or cultural practices? like what does an accent change about a person (virtually nothing)? it's going to be impossible for you to find somebody that fits all your boxes---everyone participates in culture, whether you realize it or not. the definition of racism includes antagonism and prejudice---not just discrimination.
 
mariosanchezz said:
maybe because an issue this nuanced can't be explained in black and white. i do not think its racist to have a preference, as i said. what you are saying goes into racist territory. how can you be so convinced that a single race is inferior or undesirable because of their racial or cultural practices? like what does an accent change about a person (virtually nothing)? it's going to be impossible for you to find somebody that fits all your boxes---everyone participates in culture, whether you realize it or not. the definition of racism includes antagonism and prejudice---not just discrimination.
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It's undesirable for ME PERSONALLY not in general. Again, you assume that I see black, Asian, Indian, whatever as inferior. I don't. I just dislike their culture on a personal level, so I do not whant to deal at all with it in a relationship.

The accent was just an example, is that so hard to understand? If a person, !!!!!!!FOR EXAMPLE!!!!!!! Would yell at you after each word, and slap you after each sentence, even if they cannot control nor change it, would you date them? Would you constantly have to deal with it in a relationship? If yes, good for you, but I PERSONALLY would not. And an Indian accent, !!!!FOR EXAMPLE!!!!!, is that hard to deal with for me.
 
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