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LostNFound09

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I’ve really wanted to be apart of the furry community but with their anti zoo politics it ironically pushed me further into what they hate. If I knew sooner when I was a vulnerable teenager to my impulses I could’ve avoided a self deprecating feeling of guilt. Don’t get me wrong I’m with you guys on this but it’s been 10 years of loneliness. Everytime I strifed to make something to share and hopefully connect to the outside world I just stop and fill myself with guilt. I think of what future I’ll have if I start creating a community and developing relationships with other content creators and become someone people look up to. With such a foolish idea of grandeur I somehow break apart and loath. I loath because I can really disappoint people that I matter to.

I’m not gonna turn my back on who I am. I’ve had a very hard upbringing filled with mistakes. Mistakes that helped me change into who I needed to be. To make mistakes you need to be doing something first. The best way to ever judge and be judged is the choices made after the problem. Am I gonna be mad? Am I gonna cower and lie? Am I gonna to excuse my actions?! No… someday the world gonna see the loving person I fought to make happen everyday! Through all the loneliness I found something to really grab on to and make myself a life that means something. I hate how the furry community just goes on crusades and pat themselves on the back. I’m not advocating for a rise in zoophilia. I just want to be accepted; We all wanna be accepted. I know people that confided with me about their interests. I just sat there and wished it’ll all be better and I don’t need to involve myself with others. Leaving them in silence.

Im gonna direct myself into the right path and be someone that won’t bend and break when I’m outed for being “this”. I’m tired of the privileged swinging their moral high ground. It does nothing but bully and perform to the masses.

Someday I’ll be outed; I’ll be ready. Hopefully it’ll mean something. I’m gonna promise myself to make content and never feel guilty. If you read this far in thank you. I really need support, I never ask for support cause I’m scared of being proven I’m alone. A simple like will mean the world to me.
 
Been a furry for many years and honestly, dont worry about it. There's a lot of zoo-furs.... I mean... A LOT... probably more than you think. They dont all practice.. but they arent all closed to the idea. Its only been a few years since all those kids started coming into the fandom and judging everybody and trying to make a scene out of it. It doesnt mean you have to yell it on every roofs, but enjoy yourself, enjoy what life gives you and experiment. :)
 
I used to be in the Furry community, but I left for similar reasons. The Fandom has become even more cliquish, and like the rest of society has had a marked increase in those with negative attitudes in general. Basically dumb, shallow, self-centered snowflakes, who roll around in their hypocrisy, like a hog in a fresh mud wallow. I have experienced ageism, body shaming, kink shaming and had to defend many a person who identifies as Trans, NB, or Gender fluid. Sometimes from those same pretty boys and girls who also are not Cis Het ironically, but feel that since they are pretty, they get to play the 'Mean Girls Club' online, in what they believe to be their own little delusional kingdoms.

The simple fact of the matter is, you're feeling out of place among them is actually a sign that you are a person who is maturing. Instinctively seeking and needing real connections to real people, who share your world views, and personal desires. Like 'thegreenbeast' stated above me, don't worry, take a deep breath, and understand this is part of life. We all go through it to some degree, the kinkier or more different we are from the 'norm', the more profound those changes in our lives can be. Self hate, and paranoia will only bring about misery and pain for yourself. Remember, no one can see into your mind or know who you really are unless you let them. So that nagging little feeling that is annoying you about being found out, and all that... Use it to educate yourself and learn how to navigate the world online and IRL with a mask of anonymity when it comes to the kinkier side of life. You are your only and best line of defense, knowledge is power. Learn where to go and whom to interact with. This site is a good first start, and there are literally 1000s of zoo friendly furs on Telegram and dozens of younger active furs on this site. Just need to slowly change your social circles.

Don't think about those that don't fit in your life, and prepare yourself to leave them behind. Instead, slowly and methodically begin seeking out new connections to new people, who fit what you want and need for your life to feel full, complete, and happy. I being much older, tried for many years to 'play the game' and 'hide in plain sight', missing out on a lot of opportunities to have a much more fulfilling and happier social life. I also for long stretches have been a true lone wolf, relying on no one but myself, trusting no one but my ability to survive in spite of the life I was trapped in. Unless you are needing to do some serious soul searching and healing, I do not recommend walking this earth alone. It is the coldest and most unforgiving path to walk, and will break most people.
 
I started off in the furry/feral community but was always a closeted zoo. I met lots of really cool people, and zoo curious people as well. Not all of them are anti zoo, especially between 1 on 1 DMs. In public chats or forums, for sure, they will jump on the zoo hate bandwagon. But youd be surprised how many people would outright hate on it in a discord channel, then DM me later saying: "wait so you are serious? Can you tell me more?"

I find it hard to believe that any furry who has a intact dog, hasnt ONCE thought about or looked at his knot while browsing pages and pages of furry yiff. Its all bullshit.

Now other than the cool people, I have met the highest percentage of mentally unwell people ever. Most are very young (it was supposedly an 18+ yiff discord) and their opinions simply shouldnt matter to you.

Stay the course, keep your head down, ignore the noise.

Stay the course: get a stable career so you can afford stable housing and can adequately take care of your animals. The more land the better.

Keep your head down: do not stick out like a sore thumb. Accept the fact that zoophilia will always be somewhat underground and be fortunate that there are at least a tiny amount of "safe spaces" such as here, that you can go to when things get rough.

Ignore the noise: if a furry community (or any community) constantly makes you feel unwelcomed, or creates anxiety, LEAVE IT. its not worth your time or mental being.

I wish you luck, and also fuck the haters who don't understand!
 
I feel you. I'm in a gaggle of gay furries who all take on the anti-zoo stance. It's depressing, but I often remind myself that the people who push the hardest feel they have something to push away. Maybe one day there will be a serious conversation about the subject, but I'm not holding my breath. For now I have my partner who I can confide in and that's enough for me. Hang in there and keep being you.
 
BigCountryK9 said:
I used to be in the Furry community, but I left for similar reasons. The Fandom has become even more cliquish, and like the rest of society has had a marked increase in those with negative attitudes in general. Basically dumb, shallow, self-centered snowflakes, who roll around in their hypocrisy, like a hog in a fresh mud wallow. I have experienced ageism, body shaming, kink shaming and had to defend many a person who identifies as Trans, NB, or Gender fluid. Sometimes from those same pretty boys and girls who also are not Cis Het ironically, but feel that since they are pretty, they get to play the 'Mean Girls Club' online, in what they believe to be their own little delusional kingdoms.

The simple fact of the matter is, you're feeling out of place among them is actually a sign that you are a person who is maturing. Instinctively seeking and needing real connections to real people, who share your world views, and personal desires. Like 'thegreenbeast' stated above me, don't worry, take a deep breath, and understand this is part of life. We all go through it to some degree, the kinkier or more different we are from the 'norm', the more profound those changes in our lives can be. Self hate, and paranoia will only bring about misery and pain for yourself. Remember, no one can see into your mind or know who you really are unless you let them. So that nagging little feeling that is annoying you about being found out, and all that... Use it to educate yourself and learn how to navigate the world online and IRL with a mask of anonymity when it comes to the kinkier side of life. You are your only and best line of defense, knowledge is power. Learn where to go and whom to interact with. This site is a good first start, and there are literally 1000s of zoo friendly furs on Telegram and dozens of younger active furs on this site. Just need to slowly change your social circles.

Don't think about those that don't fit in your life, and prepare yourself to leave them behind. Instead, slowly and methodically begin seeking out new connections to new people, who fit what you want and need for your life to feel full, complete, and happy. I being much older, tried for many years to 'play the game' and 'hide in plain sight', missing out on a lot of opportunities to have a much more fulfilling and happier social life. I also for long stretches have been a true lone wolf, relying on no one but myself, trusting no one but my ability to survive in spite of the life I was trapped in. Unless you are needing to do some serious soul searching and healing, I do not recommend walking this earth alone. It is the coldest and most unforgiving path to walk, and will break most people.
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"Unless you are needing to do some serious soul searching and healing, I do not recommend walking this earth alone. It is the coldest and most unforgiving path to walk, and will break most people"


I had to learn this the hard way, I took the path of being alone early in life though, mainly due to mental health issues, I masked so perfectly for about 22 years not a soul knew anything about the maelstrom of trauma, secrets, lies and half truths that laid underneath that mask. It took me getting into a car accident that should have killed me (my engine was in my passenger seat next to me) and I went to jail after that as well....when I finally got home the first thing out of my mouth to my father was that I wish the crash had killed me. His response was....less than calm and a bit harsh considering he threatened to forcibly commit me to a place I'd heard horror stories about. I went through that stint of probation and such by myself, and continued on that path of the loner that never let anyone see all the way through my mask for another 2 years and it led to another arrest due to self destructive behaviors. After the second arrest I met the man whom I'd marry, and the man who bailed me out of jail cause he had a huge crush on me, the man whom I'd known a Lil over 6 months at that time. And that was what broke me totally so that I could reshape myself and my trip down the path of soul searching by myself ended that day. When he got me home from jail and back to his house for a year I lived with him and got to know him, and during that year and into the future he told me explicitly that he wanted me to work on myself mind body and soul and that he would handle our bills and the rest of the things in our life. But over everything he was the first person who wanted to see me healed so i could reach a place of wholeness and happiness. And I have, and that wholeness and happiness has his love for me woven into it. If it hadnt been for him, i would have been in a casket no later than 2021 id guess. (my stepmother and stepsister kicked me out of where i was under the pretense of me being a methhead which I wasn't, and they used me staying at my now hubbies house for the weekend against me saying I was just down there for drugs, which I wasn't I was there for dick?)
 
Rocthorne said:
"Unless you are needing to do some serious soul searching and healing, I do not recommend walking this earth alone. It is the coldest and most unforgiving path to walk, and will break most people"


I had to learn this the hard way, I took the path of being alone early in life though, mainly due to mental health issues, I masked so perfectly for about 22 years not a soul knew anything about the maelstrom of trauma, secrets, lies and half truths that laid underneath that mask. It took me getting into a car accident that should have killed me (my engine was in my passenger seat next to me) and I went to jail after that as well....when I finally got home the first thing out of my mouth to my father was that I wish the crash had killed me. His response was....less than calm and a bit harsh considering he threatened to forcibly commit me to a place I'd heard horror stories about. I went through that stint of probation and such by myself, and continued on that path of the loner that never let anyone see all the way through my mask for another 2 years and it led to another arrest due to self destructive behaviors. After the second arrest I met the man whom I'd marry, and the man who bailed me out of jail cause he had a huge crush on me, the man whom I'd known a Lil over 6 months at that time. And that was what broke me totally so that I could reshape myself and my trip down the path of soul searching by myself ended that day. When he got me home from jail and back to his house for a year I lived with him and got to know him, and during that year and into the future he told me explicitly that he wanted me to work on myself mind body and soul and that he would handle our bills and the rest of the things in our life. But over everything he was the first person who wanted to see me healed so i could reach a place of wholeness and happiness. And I have, and that wholeness and happiness has his love for me woven into it. If it hadnt been for him, i would have been in a casket no later than 2021 id guess. (my stepmother and stepsister kicked me out of where i was under the pretense of me being a methhead which I wasn't, and they used me staying at my now hubbies house for the weekend against me saying I was just down there for drugs, which I wasn't I was there for dick?)
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Mine was a similar kind of fucked up, but a lot of the same bad people, who shouldn't have been parents, etc... Managed to stay out of lockup, and not get in a car accident.
 
I have been part of the Furry Community since 1975 and the furry community has always been from the start all-inclusive, accepting, creative, nonjudgmental, supportive, and unconditional love and support for each other a part of the Cluna or pack. We develop each other through the artistic expression of full suits developing a character and world-building accepting all the individual. This includes all parts of the sexual philias that are included in individuals the fandom was never created for children it was always Dark~nor parties full costumes and a love anthropomorphic animal characters including exhibiting human intelligence and facial expressions, speaking, walking on two legs, and wearing clothes this is a form of redirection zoophilia, zoosexual, and Exophilia. Furry has always meant a person with an important emotional/spiritual connection with an animal or animals, real, fictional, or symbolic.

So, when you get an individual that is in it for their narcissistic ego and gaslights everyone around them move back to your pack this is not a furry just a self-absorbed asshole trying to exploit, the fandom for their strokes. These are the ones that try to gatekeep and try to act exclusionary those are fakes as most narcissistic individuals are they are in the fandoms they can gain from it. These are the entertainers and individuals who come into someone's bordello and try to change rules to their values or start filming and making childish commentary to build themselves up instead of giving that respect to all other packmates. That doesn't work for them as the fandom is all-inclusive and they exclude themself by their arrogance and get written off as intolerant bigots. This is not a part of being in the moment putting down phones recording devices and helping others develop themselves and yourself in the process of being in a place where you can be safe, sanely, in communion with others, and produce something to enrich the community not just yourself.
My experience is to be tolerant of the ones that keep the anti-stance when their narcissism and shallowness expose them to step away and be honest enough to realize they are not part of the fandom they are visitors Mear attendees what they think is Disneyland and they can have "A nice Disney day"

In the years we have been in the Furry community the core community from SoCal and international conventions all have had zoophiles and other kinks it is part of being inclusive, accepting, and embracing a full individual so they can develop themselves building the community. We produce events and fans with craft skills create their own plush toys, sometimes referred to as plushies, and also build elaborate costumes called fursuits, which are worn for fun or to participate in parades, convention masquerades, dances, or fund-raising charity events (as entertainers) Fursuits range from designs featuring simple construction resembling some entertainment and sports mascots to those with more sophisticated features such as moving jaw mechanisms, animatronic parts, prosthetic makeup, and other features. Fursuits range in price from $500, for mascot-like designs, to upwards of $10,000 for models incorporating animatronics. While about 80% of furries do not own a full fursuit, often citing their expensive cost as the decisive factor, a majority of them hold positive feelings towards fursuiters and the conventions in which they participate. Some fans may also wear "partial" suits consisting simply of ears and a tail, or a head, paws, and a tail. A much larger proportion of individuals who attend conventions own a full or partial fursuit—45%, according to a survey done at Anthrocon 2018—which has been attributed to convention attendees' generally higher likelihood of being able to afford to buy a fursuit if they can afford convention travel expenses.

Furry fans also pursue puppetry, recording videos and performing live shows such as Rapid T. Rabbit and Friends and the Funday PawPet Show, and create furry accessories, such as ears or tails.

You learn to surround yourself with furries who offer strong emotional support and create a safe environment for you to be yourself. Welcome home traveler come sit down and let's have a meal and chat for a while while we work on something magical.
 
I'm a nobody in the furry fandom and I don't mind that. Yeah, depression and loneliness are a thing in my life but hey, it's still a life, eh? It's easier because I have many hobbies and a job that I love. No partner though but what can you do? Maybe one day I'll find this special someone but I decided not to talk about zoo. That's just too risky. Sadly, I don't live in the US/West Europe/Canada/whatever so finding someone on this forum will be tricky but I'll try anyway. I would love to meet people from ZV but there's always security concern.
 
Ynylgseha said:
You learn to surround yourself with furries who offer strong emotional support and create a safe environment for you to be yourself. Welcome home traveler come sit down and let's have a meal and chat for a while while we work on something magical.
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This is the best part of furry culture. Understanding and genuine emotional support can turn a life around, mine included.
 
The younger kids/teens in the fandom think they can dictate everybody, and that people not up to par with those standards shall be removed.

Easy way is to ignore it, stay on the down low, and when you are almost certain you know someone is a zoo, you can explore from there. If someone from your area has been “canceled” for being a zoo, you can befriend them and ask about other zoo friends. Try to keep it discreet though.
 
koozi said:
The younger kids/teens in the fandom think they can dictate everybody, and that people not up to par with those standards shall be removed.

Easy way is to ignore it, stay on the down low, and when you are almost certain you know someone is a zoo, you can explore from there. If someone from your area has been “canceled” for being a zoo, you can befriend them and ask about other zoo friends. Try to keep it discreet though.
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Generally, we cancel the bigots and fake furries big revelations, there is more zoos in fandom as we made it what it is today. We always have been discrete Dark~Nor in our meetings as we all have our kinks which can be interesting to learn as well as use for the betterment of all in the community.
 
I think a lot of the anti-zoo hate these days comes from a lot of young furries that live in an age where everything on social media is hyper-political. Everyone feels the need to have a stance on everything. Not only do you have to have a stance, you need to have THE stance or else people want to cancel you and will say all sorts of horrible things for internet points.

It's virtue signalling, plain and simple. These are the same people ganging up on a person because their anthro dog has a dog penis and publicly label them as a "dog fucker" and tell them to unalive themselves without even knowing ANYTHING about this person, and whether they are even zoo or not. Having an intimate relationship with your animal companion that is reciprocated is considered wrong and yet telling another human being that they shouldn't be alive and threatening them is somehow something to be proud of? These people don't care about their neighbors, let alone the animals they claim to protect. Their bottom line is how many brownie points they can get from people they are never going to see face to face.

My take on it is that all furries are attracted to animals and project their humanity onto them because it makes them happy. As much as new age furries want to ignore it, there are plenty of us who recognize animals as their own beings and wish to respect them and make them happy, in every way they can. We've shaped the history of the furry fandom since the beginning, whether they want to accept it or not. I guarantee you that a lot of the people who are extremely vocal about their disdain for zoo likely feel shame for having an interest in it themselves. It's ironic that they choose to discriminate within the community who's entire shtick was freedom of expression, both emotionally and sexually. Such is life, I suppose.

There are more of us in the fandom than they care to know, and even though it puts us in a shitty situation, we can't forget that; even if it's not something we can openly advertise. We stick together as best we can. That's what it's always been about at its core, finding your niche community.
 
I’m sorry to hear about your experience with the furry fandom. It’s important to remember that your worth and identity are not defined by any community’s acceptance. There are countless others who share your interests and passions, and they can be found in other groups or spaces where you will be valued and respected.

You have a unique perspective and creativity that are valuable, and it’s their loss for not recognizing that. Keep being yourself and exploring the things you love. The right people will appreciate you for who you are. Stay strong and know that you are not alone.

I hope this helps!
 
It's actually kinda wild to me, because diving into the world of furries is actually what got me into zoo. But I just happened to meet one that was into zoo. She is someone I'll never forget. Even though I was not very open to any of that back then. Kinda sucks I wasn't, as that would've made our relationship so much more than it was. She is just a long lost memory now though.
 
LostNFound09 said:
I’ve really wanted to be apart of the furry community but with their anti zoo politics it ironically pushed me further into what they hate. If I knew sooner when I was a vulnerable teenager to my impulses I could’ve avoided a self deprecating feeling of guilt. Don’t get me wrong I’m with you guys on this but it’s been 10 years of loneliness. Everytime I strifed to make something to share and hopefully connect to the outside world I just stop and fill myself with guilt. I think of what future I’ll have if I start creating a community and developing relationships with other content creators and become someone people look up to. With such a foolish idea of grandeur I somehow break apart and loath. I loath because I can really disappoint people that I matter to.

I’m not gonna turn my back on who I am. I’ve had a very hard upbringing filled with mistakes. Mistakes that helped me change into who I needed to be. To make mistakes you need to be doing something first. The best way to ever judge and be judged is the choices made after the problem. Am I gonna be mad? Am I gonna cower and lie? Am I gonna to excuse my actions?! No… someday the world gonna see the loving person I fought to make happen everyday! Through all the loneliness I found something to really grab on to and make myself a life that means something. I hate how the furry community just goes on crusades and pat themselves on the back. I’m not advocating for a rise in zoophilia. I just want to be accepted; We all wanna be accepted. I know people that confided with me about their interests. I just sat there and wished it’ll all be better and I don’t need to involve myself with others. Leaving them in silence.

Im gonna direct myself into the right path and be someone that won’t bend and break when I’m outed for being “this”. I’m tired of the privileged swinging their moral high ground. It does nothing but bully and perform to the masses.

Someday I’ll be outed; I’ll be ready. Hopefully it’ll mean something. I’m gonna promise myself to make content and never feel guilty. If you read this far in thank you. I really need support, I never ask for support cause I’m scared of being proven I’m alone. A simple like will mean the world to me.
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I’ve tried being part of the furry community as well but when you take a step back and realize that the majority of the people who are active in the community tend to be a revolving door of teens to early 20 somethings is really helpful. Being part of a community and considering yourself as one are two separate things and you can consider yourself a furry without interacting with the community. I have tried numerous times being someone with a decent amount of melanin in my skin definitely doesn’t help. The loudest one’s that find themselves to be the “voice” of everyone tend to tell you how the community is trending. Hell it’s getting to a point where the sexual part of the community is looked down on and there is constantly drama. Not to mention becoming fairly well known can turn into a full time job since there are tons of aspects to it.

I wouldn’t worry about being accepted but if it is a rather large concern it’s all about separation and making sure to keep the part of your life that you don’t want people to know about separated from everything else. It’s not denying who you are in the least bit but not every aspect of yourself needs to be shared with everyone. There are just some things you have to keep away from people. But having some friends or even people you can have close to you that have the same interests that you do can very much help that loneliness. I’m a person that’s just used to being alone and not feeling like I quite belong anywhere but (growing up in social isolation helps that a lot) the benefit to that is being able to be someone outside looking in at different communities they tend to share a lot of similarities with being judgmental it just depends on what same with people with differing ideologies.

Suffice to say keep something like being a zoo close to you and be wary on who you trust that information with.
 
Furry myself, there are a lot of furry zoo's, but also a lot of anti zoo. the furry fandom is a "superculture", which means you find all walks of life within it. which also mean the every day hate is also there, and the haters will speak way loader than the supporters. I know a -lot- of furries that are also zoo's, but def. also the very anti-zoo furries.
 
LostNFound09 said:
I’ve really wanted to be apart of the furry community but with their anti zoo politics it ironically pushed me further into what they hate. If I knew sooner when I was a vulnerable teenager to my impulses I could’ve avoided a self deprecating feeling of guilt. Don’t get me wrong I’m with you guys on this but it’s been 10 years of loneliness. Everytime I strifed to make something to share and hopefully connect to the outside world I just stop and fill myself with guilt. I think of what future I’ll have if I start creating a community and developing relationships with other content creators and become someone people look up to. With such a foolish idea of grandeur I somehow break apart and loath. I loath because I can really disappoint people that I matter to.

I’m not gonna turn my back on who I am. I’ve had a very hard upbringing filled with mistakes. Mistakes that helped me change into who I needed to be. To make mistakes you need to be doing something first. The best way to ever judge and be judged is the choices made after the problem. Am I gonna be mad? Am I gonna cower and lie? Am I gonna to excuse my actions?! No… someday the world gonna see the loving person I fought to make happen everyday! Through all the loneliness I found something to really grab on to and make myself a life that means something. I hate how the furry community just goes on crusades and pat themselves on the back. I’m not advocating for a rise in zoophilia. I just want to be accepted; We all wanna be accepted. I know people that confided with me about their interests. I just sat there and wished it’ll all be better and I don’t need to involve myself with others. Leaving them in silence.

Im gonna direct myself into the right path and be someone that won’t bend and break when I’m outed for being “this”. I’m tired of the privileged swinging their moral high ground. It does nothing but bully and perform to the masses.

Someday I’ll be outed; I’ll be ready. Hopefully it’ll mean something. I’m gonna promise myself to make content and never feel guilty. If you read this far in thank you. I really need support, I never ask for support cause I’m scared of being proven I’m alone. A simple like will mean the world to me.
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I can agree on many aspects with this. It's the same with me, the hatred of others for being who I am has in fact turned me further into zoo. I feel ashamed when I accomplish something and feel shame at the sight of success. You can never know if you'll be doxxed or not, or exposed, but that's the biggest fear we all have. Others in higher positions condemn us as being immoral when we are the same people but into something viewed as a mental illness and horrible crime
Thank you for your post, and I hope venting on here has helped you clear out your heart ❤️ ?
 
TL;DR: Don't sweat it. Furries are fucking weird and nobody should be so obsessed with their interests/politics/sexuality that it becomes core to their being. Anyone attacking you for minor aspects of your personality such as what you enjoy and what you find attractive is weak in character and not worth the effort to be offended by. Just have a laugh at their nonsense and keep doing your own thing.

I've been a furry since before FA was a thing, back when Katmandu comics were new in retail stores, to put a finer point on it.

I've long said that the biggest problem with the community is that it's so inclusive that furries will accept literally anyone. Once you have such a diverse group of interests and opinions that there's only a thin connection between the zoofurs, the toons, the lycans, the sparkledogs, the diaperfurs, and all the rest, there's going to be friction. When that friction occurs, the "inclusive" community turns on the smallest/weakest/most "off-putting" demographic and actively removes it. This isn't unique to furries, of course, but it's most evident, as there's such a desire for visibility within the community, which strains that single, common thread to its breaking point.

The key, in my experience, is to just ignore the haters and the rhetoric. Just let it roll off your back as if it doesn't affect you at all. Join in the mockery and satire to revel in the ignorance of the (extremely) vocal minority who want you ousted from the community. They don't have to know you've got friends elsewhere, in another (this) community, who are laughing along with you at how ridiculous they're acting. While they're chasing phantoms of their own imagination, raving about how dangerous and depraved you are (or whatever their talking points are), just let them tire themselves out in their quest for some nebulous moral high ground. In short order, they'll be on to their next victims from within their own community and you'll make new friends and new connections among other like-minded individuals who can sit back with you and have a laugh at how juvenile everyone is acting.

The stress and anxiety isn't worth it.

Personally, I've made it a point not to watch/follow/interact with anyone who feels the need to broadcast their sexuality, political views, animosities, or rabid fandom from the rooftops by blasting it in journals or plastering it all over their profiles; if I wanted to keep company with zealots and fanatics, I'd join a cult. It's far easier to just blot out the noise and keep doing your own thing without the input of strangers. If we met in person, you'd have no clue that I'm a furry, let alone a zoo. Even when I finally say something about being a furry, I'm also actively mocking the fandom, because life is just a joke, and each of us is the punchline; so we may as well laugh!

I hope the support everyone's been showing you helps to alleviate some of your negative emotions, and I wish you nothing but the best in future endeavors.

Yiff on, you glorious bastard! :)

Edit: I'm well aware that someone's going to look at this and have a "wait a second" moment when they reach the bottom. What can I say? I enjoy irony. :p
 
LostNFound09 said:
I’ve really wanted to be apart of the furry community but with their anti zoo politics it ironically pushed me further into what they hate. If I knew sooner when I was a vulnerable teenager to my impulses I could’ve avoided a self deprecating feeling of guilt. Don’t get me wrong I’m with you guys on this but it’s been 10 years of loneliness. Everytime I strifed to make something to share and hopefully connect to the outside world I just stop and fill myself with guilt. I think of what future I’ll have if I start creating a community and developing relationships with other content creators and become someone people look up to. With such a foolish idea of grandeur I somehow break apart and loath. I loath because I can really disappoint people that I matter to.

I’m not gonna turn my back on who I am. I’ve had a very hard upbringing filled with mistakes. Mistakes that helped me change into who I needed to be. To make mistakes you need to be doing something first. The best way to ever judge and be judged is the choices made after the problem. Am I gonna be mad? Am I gonna cower and lie? Am I gonna to excuse my actions?! No… someday the world gonna see the loving person I fought to make happen everyday! Through all the loneliness I found something to really grab on to and make myself a life that means something. I hate how the furry community just goes on crusades and pat themselves on the back. I’m not advocating for a rise in zoophilia. I just want to be accepted; We all wanna be accepted. I know people that confided with me about their interests. I just sat there and wished it’ll all be better and I don’t need to involve myself with others. Leaving them in silence.

Im gonna direct myself into the right path and be someone that won’t bend and break when I’m outed for being “this”. I’m tired of the privileged swinging their moral high ground. It does nothing but bully and perform to the masses.

Someday I’ll be outed; I’ll be ready. Hopefully it’ll mean something. I’m gonna promise myself to make content and never feel guilty. If you read this far in thank you. I really need support, I never ask for support cause I’m scared of being proven I’m alone. A simple like will mean the world to me.
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Who needs these fake furries anyway? Jerking off to dog penis but its ok because its anthro? sounds like some closeted zoofur shit to me bro :3
 
jameson6189 said:
I've felt similarly for a long time. Especially with social media designed to amplify negative activity every time zoo stuff gets mentioned in the furry sphere. Resolved to just keep my head down and been slowly making the right kind of friends as I go.
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That seems to be the way to go about it
 
LostNFound09 said:
I’ve really wanted to be apart of the furry community but with their anti zoo politics it ironically pushed me further into what they hate. If I knew sooner when I was a vulnerable teenager to my impulses I could’ve avoided a self deprecating feeling of guilt. Don’t get me wrong I’m with you guys on this but it’s been 10 years of loneliness. Everytime I strifed to make something to share and hopefully connect to the outside world I just stop and fill myself with guilt. I think of what future I’ll have if I start creating a community and developing relationships with other content creators and become someone people look up to. With such a foolish idea of grandeur I somehow break apart and loath. I loath because I can really disappoint people that I matter to.

I’m not gonna turn my back on who I am. I’ve had a very hard upbringing filled with mistakes. Mistakes that helped me change into who I needed to be. To make mistakes you need to be doing something first. The best way to ever judge and be judged is the choices made after the problem. Am I gonna be mad? Am I gonna cower and lie? Am I gonna to excuse my actions?! No… someday the world gonna see the loving person I fought to make happen everyday! Through all the loneliness I found something to really grab on to and make myself a life that means something. I hate how the furry community just goes on crusades and pat themselves on the back. I’m not advocating for a rise in zoophilia. I just want to be accepted; We all wanna be accepted. I know people that confided with me about their interests. I just sat there and wished it’ll all be better and I don’t need to involve myself with others. Leaving them in silence.

Im gonna direct myself into the right path and be someone that won’t bend and break when I’m outed for being “this”. I’m tired of the privileged swinging their moral high ground. It does nothing but bully and perform to the masses.

Someday I’ll be outed; I’ll be ready. Hopefully it’ll mean something. I’m gonna promise myself to make content and never feel guilty. If you read this far in thank you. I really need support, I never ask for support cause I’m scared of being proven I’m alone. A simple like will mean the world to me.
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I'm a furry and a zoo but I'm not going around telling everyone I'm a zoo most people don't know i am only a couple do.
 
thegreenbeast said:
Been a furry for many years and honestly, dont worry about it. There's a lot of zoo-furs.... I mean... A LOT... probably more than you think. They dont all practice.. but they arent all closed to the idea. Its only been a few years since all those kids started coming into the fandom and judging everybody and trying to make a scene out of it. It doesnt mean you have to yell it on every roofs, but enjoy yourself, enjoy what life gives you and experiment. :)
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This. Personally I keep loose affiliations with any group that I am with, as, well, human suck. If they get too shitty, then I take my stuff elsewhere. The good thing is, one doesn't need the community per-say to enjoy it.
 
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