i do not wish to offend anyone with this post. do any of you feel... ashamed of who you are?

Goozeflzh said:
Goozeflzh said:
I am a 23 y/o transguy who have always been into girls.
I also happen to have a rather low sex drive, and I am very content with being single and I do not crave for any sort of intimacy. Especially not emotionally.
But at the same time, I have also always been into male dogs. Which is weird because I'm not into human males at all really. At least I don't think so. I consider myself straight. Seriously. I am so confused by this.

I do not live by myself at the moment, and I have only been with a dog yeaaaars ago, but ever since then I have had, uh, a craving. But I hate it. It makes me feel ashamed. I don't understand why. Is it the taboo of it all? What else could it be? I want to keep it behind closed doors, but internally acting out on it would make me feel so ashamed, even though I really want to act on it someday.

Does anyone else feel the same?
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I totally understand the feeling of shame you feel because I experienced it myself when I was younger. Difficult mixture of desires, dreams, pleasant thoughts and embarrassment, indignation with respect to ourselves; judgment of society and the law.
But that's normal. Me and others have been there.
I assure you that over time, without rushing things, without rushing anything, by dint of thinking about it, by noting that this is really what makes you happy, the shame will fade. Anyway, no human chooses his attractions. They impose themselves on us, without us really knowing why. And after all, does it matter why? :) Everything we feel, thousands of humans have felt before us for centuries. Like you, I don't feel any lack when I'm single. Yet I have been in a relationship with women while sometimes meeting men. So you're not the only one :) There are many of us in this case. And male dogs started to appeal to me when I was around 20 years old. It came suddenly... no one will ever know why :)
If you feel the need to discuss it with me, do not hesitate to contact me in any case. Be brave and take care, Goozeflzh :) Kisses!
 
Nope, not at all. You are who you are, simply as is. With the preferences you have. We have all one similar point of interest. As long animals are not harmed and own willingness in place to start action, there should be no reason to be ashamed from my perspective
 
Electric Zoogaloo said:
I did once. When I first realized I was attracted to animals I was still somewhat religious (protestant christian). Every time I looked at the porn or had "sinful" thoughts I felt guilty and disgusting. Luckily I have since renounced my religion becoming an atheist-leaning agnostic. That was the was the best decision I ever made. I finally felt free to be myself. It still took a bit of time to fully accept my zoophilia, but eventually I did.
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Good for you be happy
 
I never felt ashamed per say but I did question my morals at a certain degree. Though reading through a lot of zoo posts about zoophilia definitely helped me feel more at ease about who I am. Though being guarded on the topic unless they know, which im glad those that do feel the same way!
 
I felt that way for a while, but then I accepted it, it happened in my adolescence I began to feel attracted to transsexuals and I was afraid that they would judge me and call me gay. Time passed and I met my first trans girlfriend, this helped me accept my bisexuality and thanks to her I got to know the wonderful world of the zoo.
 
Back when I was young I struggled with acceptance and believed what I was told, that I would prefer a woman and that I couldn't be happy with anything but a woman. Nothing against women, but I feel it would be as hard for a straight man to be gay or a gay man to be straight as it would for me to be happy with either a man or a woman.

As for being ashamed, I'm not sure I was ever really ashamed of it, but I quickly learned that hiding my attractions and feelings saved me a lot of grief.
 
Ashamed...yes at the beginning i was torn between the values i was was raised to and my feelings..and it got worse when i got active..it was a wonderful experience fun, enjoyment and true love for both sides..but afterwards it was like what have i done and i felt like shit.....but it changed after i saw what humans do to each other and how many lies are there,..who are you to tell me about moral...but it took some time to get to that conclusion if you have a partner its only betwenny you and them.....both have to be fine with it, enjoy it and have to be equal...then thats noone other's fricking business
 
When I was younger, after I had my first experience and came down from the high I definitely had mixed emotions. I grew up pretty sheltered from everything in suburbia and having these desires did not really reconcile with the cookie cutter upbringing I had. My first experiences were with other owners dogs that I did not really have a connection with too. I would crave the hook up, then would experience it and then would feel some shame, disbelief and struggled to accept what I had done.

I think 2 things have made those feelings go away. I got my own dogs and felt the bond with them grow and I found communities of like minded people on BF, chat services and now on here. Sure I still struggle with the fear of being accepted by others and confusion on why we're all wired the way we are, but I now have a partner that accepts me, a best friend in my dog, and a circle of friends who support me.
 
I used to feel shame and confusion, but then quickly realized all the feelings I was unable to feel for humans, I felt for animals. Since then I guess I just decided to live my truth, even if no one can really tell.
 
I understand of feeling ashamed because of our values and upbringing. I find out that there is no reason why we should feel ashamed let’s face it a lot of the people we know have more secrets and skeletons in there closet that we can imagine. It’s nice that we can go to a place and meet people like us. Hope we can stay in touch.
 
I've actually been the exact same: transgender, always been into girls, found out I've been into male dogs a couple years ago, cut to some time later I'm actually a straight zoo exclusive due to trauma now. I've also often been ashamed and how I wish that I wasn't like this but here's what I think: if people don't like the life I'm living then maybe they should work on bettering themselves as a society and in general. (Sorry if this sounds weird I'm tired lmao)
 
Yes.
I have felt shame about my zoo side many times. Even if this is not a new thing for me I can still get feelings of shame and regret after having zoo sex.
I have no idea how many times I have had sex with a dog, too many times to keep track. But those feelings can still creep up on me. Apparently I don't let those feelings stop me from letting my dog mate with me.
 
rainbowzluzhy said:
I've actually been the exact same: transgender, always been into girls, found out I've been into male dogs a couple years ago, cut to some time later I'm actually a straight zoo exclusive due to trauma now. I've also often been ashamed and how I wish that I wasn't like this but here's what I think: if people don't like the life I'm living then maybe they should work on bettering themselves as a society and in general. (Sorry if this sounds weird I'm tired lmao)
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I’m with you I don’t let people know about me it’s non of there business.
 
You should feel ashamed if you have fun with four legs and leave right away after you've got what you wanted.

When it comes to humans, don't forget: Humans have set up and invented so many absurd standards and ideas just for their own purpose (to control you, to make you feel small, etc.) that it would be plain stupid to blindly follow any of them. Make up your own mind, trust your feelings and remember that the most important thing is to be at peace with yourself and not with what other ppl may think of you. I'm glad I realized that already in early youth so that I learned to follow my own reasoning and I suppose that that helped me to develop a lot of self-confidence though I've never done or achieved anything big that I could be proud of. I am happy with being a "quite acceptable" person that is open-minded, usually friendly and tolerant. Other folks will have other standards, and that of course is fine as well, just don't forget to think about mental hygiene with which I mean: Don't do too many things that you cannot be proud of.
 
Rainbowgazer said:
You should feel ashamed if you have fun with four legs and leave right away after you've got what you wanted.

When it comes to humans, don't forget: Humans have set up and invented so many absurd standards and ideas just for their own purpose (to control you, to make you feel small, etc.) that it would be plain stupid to blindly follow any of them. Make up your own mind, trust your feelings and remember that the most important thing is to be at peace with yourself and not with what other ppl may think of you. I'm glad I realized that already in early youth so that I learned to follow my own reasoning and I suppose that that helped me to develop a lot of self-confidence though I've never done or achieved anything big that I could be proud of. I am happy with being a "quite acceptable" person that is open-minded, usually friendly and tolerant. Other folks will have other standards, and that of course is fine as well, just don't forget to think about mental hygiene with which I mean: Don't do too many things that you cannot be proud of.
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Goozeflzh said:
I am a 23 y/o transguy who have always been into girls.
I also happen to have a rather low sex drive, and I am very content with being single and I do not crave for any sort of intimacy. Especially not emotionally.
But at the same time, I have also always been into male dogs. Which is weird because I'm not into human males at all really. At least I don't think so. I consider myself straight. Seriously. I am so confused by this.

I do not live by myself at the moment, and I have only been with a dog yeaaaars ago, but ever since then I have had, uh, a craving. But I hate it. It makes me feel ashamed. I don't understand why. Is it the taboo of it all? What else could it be? I want to keep it behind closed doors, but internally acting out on it would make me feel so ashamed, even though I really want to act on it someday.

Does anyone else feel the same?
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I'll make this quite short, I do not. It's who I am.
 
Oddly enough, i never once have. I know i have to hide it, probably forever, and there isnt a single soul irl i can trust to know. But that's not shame, it's keeping it special.

Maybe one day it'll be like that secret my time traveling self says to prove it's me.
Ill probably get an animal that i can have... relations with some day. But that's going to be our special thing, and no one else's. And i think that's comforting.
 
The only things I'm ashamed of are not finding this place before starting my first zoophilic relationship and the mistakes I made at the beginning of said relationship. However when I did finally make it here we were a lot happier then. Because of all the things I learned from this place and that relationship I am a better person then the selfish ass I was in the beginning.
 
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