How to handle puppy’s urges?

[bernerbaby]

Hello! Long time lurker but finally had to become a part of the community. While this question might just seem like it’s intended to entice people, I really do have an interest in handling this best and want honest but insightful opinions.

I have a 5 month old puppy who is my companion first and lover second…and only as long as he has a natural interest.

Even though he is on the younger side, he is “excited”….constantly. His dick is out more often than not and even though I have never done anything sexual towards him, he attempts to mount me any chance he can get. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t know if I should play with myself in the same room as him because it’s obvious how worked up he gets. He hasn’t had any human interaction other than with me at this point so he’s not getting sexual attention elsewhere.

I very much believe in waiting until he is sexually mature enough to start any type of sexual dynamic with him. I’ve read a few of the how-to threads but I feel my questions are more specific-

Should I hold of from being naked or playing with myself around him until he has reached sexual maturity? I do feel bad that he always seems so horny, should I provide any relief? Is there any downside to letting these natural urges pass and not encouraging them??

Thank you SO much in advance

 

[Ted Danson Machine]

Yes you definitely should wait until he has matured to do anything sexual with him, keep that attitude. And he's just being a pup. Let him work it out and grow. It's perfectly normal There are definitely more knowledgeable people here that can help if it becomes a serious issue that is causing him any pain or anything like that.

 

[pes]

When adolescence in dogs begins is not precisely defined. But it usually begins sooner the smaller the dog is. 5 months might be the start for your dog even though the earliest age I found was 6 months. Some individuals might be more sexual than others. I would wait until he shows sexual interest in female dogs as a sign of his sexual development.

 

[Ted Danson Machine]

thank you pes. was hoping you'd come through

 

[bernerbaby]

thank you both!!

 

[HugDoggy]

So it is very normal for a young dog as they mature to get erections and to stick out of his sheath. In fact it is actually an important part of his development as it helps stretch the opening of his sheath so his knot can slip out as he penetrates his partner and be able to stretch back over the softening knot to cover the penis again after he has finished. So him getting hard is as much about growing up a healthy dog as it is about excitement. I don't just mean sexual excitement either, it is also perfectly normal for other forms of excitement like going for a walk or playing a game to cause some swelling down stairs. As long as his penis is always being retracted after a few minutes at most of being out and exposed all is well. The only time you have to worry is say if his knot has come out and stayed out for a longer time such as 10 to 15 minutes. As the penis can dry out and become sore.

While I wouldn't start pleasuring yourself around him, I wouldn't worry to much if he happens to walk into the room or comes over to you to see what you're doing, He will decide when he wants to try something in his own good time. Trying to help him out although done with the best intent may be rushing him to a point he's not really ready for yet. Yet at the same time actively discouraging him from trying to mount you when you smell oh so nice for some reason can also be counter productive as he may not know why he thinks he's being punished for how he feels.

So depending on the breed most dogs hit puberty between roughly 6-9 months but 5 months for your boy is not out of the question, it can happen. But when sex should first occur varies from dog to dog also, but a safe range in most cases is 14-18 months as it gives the dog a chance to mature mentally as well as physically. But if your boy is an early bloomer than he may be eager to get there a bit sooner.

You say he mounts you all the time, If he is doing this only when your naked I would neither praise or admonish him for it. remaining neutral lets him work out if it's worth doing or not, based on his own desires and urges. However in all other situations that would not be considered sexual in any way I would be telling him "get down" jumping on people in most situations is not a good thing to be doing. You can also turn your back on him as a passive way to say no, if your standing up. Good boys sit for pats and don't jump up unless invited.

So in short try not to start pleasuring yourself around him, and showering afterwards to reduce your sexy smell can be helpful for him, to keep thinking un-sexy thoughts, but if he finds you in the middle of pleasuring yourself don't stress to much. If he tries to mount you when your naked do nothing to encourage him or discourage him, he's just trying to work out that part of the world, because he has started to have these strange urges his nose is telling him he should be thinking about, because of the smells coming from you. Don't instigate sexual contact/touching until he tells you he is ready. Best way to know that is when he mounts you and actually works out where his nuts and bolt fit and how they work, rather than him just jumping on you. Basically let him take the journey, he will work things out in his own time and when he does that's when to worry about where to from there. In my opinion and this might be controversial to some, but if the dog is instigating the sexual act and knows how to perform it they are ready, if the human is requesting sex they may not be ready and it's best to wait till the 18 month standard rule of thumb. But all jumping up or mounting like behaviour that you don't want outside of the bedroom should be discouraged to make them a more socially responsible citizen in general human society.

 

[bernerbaby]

So it is very normal for a young dog as they mature to get erections and to stick out of his sheath. In fact it is actually an important part of his development as it helps stretch the opening of his sheath so his knot can slip out as he penetrates his partner and be able to stretch back over the softening knot to cover the penis again after he has finished. So him getting hard is as much about growing up a healthy dog as it is about excitement. I don't just mean sexual excitement either, it is also perfectly normal for other forms of excitement like going for a walk or playing a game to cause some swelling down stairs. As long as his penis is always being retracted after a few minutes at most of being out and exposed all is well. The only time you have to worry is say if his knot has come out and stayed out for a longer time such as 10 to 15 minutes. As the penis can dry out and become sore.

While I wouldn't start pleasuring yourself around him, I wouldn't worry to much if he happens to walk into the room or comes over to you to see what you're doing, He will decide when he wants to try something in his own good time. Trying to help him out although done with the best intent may be rushing him to a point he's not really ready for yet. Yet at the same time actively discouraging him from trying to mount you when you smell oh so nice for some reason can also be counter productive as he may not know why he thinks he's being punished for how he feels.

So depending on the breed most dogs hit puberty between roughly 6-9 months but 5 months for your boy is not out of the question, it can happen. But when sex should first occur varies from dog to dog also, but a safe range in most cases is 14-18 months as it gives the dog a chance to mature mentally as well as physically. But if your boy is an early bloomer than he may be eager to get there a bit sooner.

You say he mounts you all the time, If he is doing this only when your naked I would neither praise or admonish him for it. remaining neutral lets him work out if it's worth doing or not, based on his own desires and urges. However in all other situations that would not be considered sexual in any way I would be telling him "get down" jumping on people in most situations is not a good thing to be doing. You can also turn your back on him as a passive way to say no, if your standing up. Good boys sit for pats and don't jump up unless invited.

So in short try not to start pleasuring yourself around him, and showering afterwards to reduce your sexy smell can be helpful for him, to keep thinking un-sexy thoughts, but if he finds you in the middle of pleasuring yourself don't stress to much. If he tries to mount you when your naked do nothing to encourage him or discourage him, he's just trying to work out that part of the world, because he has started to have these strange urges his nose is telling him he should be thinking about, because of the smells coming from you. Don't instigate sexual contact/touching until he tells you he is ready. Best way to know that is when he mounts you and actually works out where his nuts and bolt fit and how they work, rather than him just jumping on you. Basically let him take the journey, he will work things out in his own time and when he does that's when to worry about where to from there. In my opinion and this might be controversial to some, but if the dog is instigating the sexual act and knows how to perform it they are ready, if the human is requesting sex they may not be ready and it's best to wait till the 18 month standard rule of thumb. But all jumping up or mounting like behaviour that you don't want outside of the bedroom should be discouraged to make them a more socially responsible citizen in general human society.

I totally didn’t expect such helpful and thought out responses. Really really appreciate it

 

[HugDoggy]

I totally didn’t expect such helpful and thought out responses. Really really appreciate it

There is knowledge in our community, hiding away in people's brains So It's always worth asking a question, no one can help if you don't.
Mind you in my case at least, I'm surprised I made any sense writing a response at 2am in the morning before finding my bed.

 

[ice bear]

I'm having a similar issue with my pup. The difference is, he's constantly trying to hump my husky girl and she doesn't like it at all. But he's really persistent, even to the point of making her genuinely angry. I could do the "remain neutral" thing if he was humping me... but it's not really an option when he's upsetting my mate. How can I get him to stop doing that without making him feel like I'm discouraging him from doing sexual stuff?

I should say that my pup is a little less than a year old, gets very energetic at times, and is bigger than my husky.

 

[HugDoggy]

I'm having a similar issue with my pup. The difference is, he's constantly trying to hump my husky girl and she doesn't like it at all. But he's really persistent, even to the point of making her genuinely angry. I could do the "remain neutral" thing if he was humping me... but it's not really an option when he's upsetting my mate. How can I get him to stop doing that without making him feel like I'm discouraging him from doing sexual stuff?

I should say that my pup is a little less than a year old, gets very energetic at times, and is bigger than my husky.

Humping has a number of causes, but the 3 most common causes are: Sexual desire, asserting dominance over another, or stress/fear over something the dog is worried about. The latter usually manifests in the humping of objects though rather than another living animal/human, as humping even with out penetration can still feel good and release chemicals in the brain that help with relaxing or de-stressing.

Is your husky more or less dominant than the pup. Generally one dog will be in charge and the others will follow their lead. If the Husky is top dog, I wouldn't worry to much unless she is getting up in age and can't handle being puppy pounced. Provided she is physically fit and as bad as this sounds the puppy must learn his place and that may require getting a chomp by the Husky. I'm not talking about a full on fight you can't let things go to the extent a vet visit is needed, but... in dog society the way youngsters learn is to push their elders, testing their bounds until they are advised in no uncertain terms they have crossed a line and that line is usually patroled by growls, snarls, and lip curls. On the other side of that line are a set of teeth. Some pups get the point before things turn physical; while others require the point quite literally being driven into there head.

Now based on what you have said I am pretty sure the husky is in charge out of the two of them, but I will cover the alternate situation in case I have misunderstood you.

If the Puppy is trying to become top dog or already is because the Husky always lets him get away with doing what ever he wants, that's a bit more problematic. In this case you do need to intervene to make sure he doesn't hurt her. That is you have to advise him that you as pack leader are not happy about him picking on her to the extent he is. This can be done just by saying his name firmly and "NO!" to issue a warning and if he continues you need to calmly but quickly escort him from the room and close the door. He must associate his immediate previous activity with the result of being separated from the other pack member.
Give him a minute or two to settle and check on him, if he has calmed down again he can re-enter the room. If he hasn't calmed give him another minute or two and check on him again. The idea is to get him out of the hyped up state before he comes back in. If when he re-enters he goes straight back to annoying your Husky girl repeat the process. He should learn very quickly that overly rough behaviour leads to time outs

To a puppy time alone is very bad news, so after a few cycles of this sort of thing, provided you are consistent and repeat the process in a predictable way it will help settle him down a bit.

That said puppies have loads of energy and are notorious for driving everyone in the pack insane, with the prolonged exuberance they insist in sharing with everybody. So make sure you give him a little leeway to a playful puppy, before you start being cop and spoiling all his fun, so maybe let your husky girl draw that line when her body language suggest he being to much for her. But above all be consistent, Once you given the verbal warning you must follow through, if he continues breaking the rules you have set out. If you take him out of the room sometimes and other times let him get away with the bad behaviour it won't work and will be confusing to him.

As for putting him off sex if you reprimand him for humping your girl beyond her point of tolerance, don't worry, he will very much still be interested in her when she is in heat, no matter what you tell him when she is not in heat, pheromones are a powerful call to any dogs nose. That's assuming you are wanting them to have puppies. If however you are wanting him to only be mating with you as you don't want mini-woofers padding around, you will need to keep them separate when she is in heat, which can be a real challenge if they are both inside dogs that spend all their time with you when your home. Also there will probably be much howling involved if he can't get to her when she smells sooooo good. But this is a good time to offer him a substitute for his desires such as I don't know, you maybe. So when your girl is in heat, you should be in heat also. The easiest way to switch his attention to you is to wipe her juices on yourself before getting down on your hands and knees and presenting for him, to sniff and lick, and mount you if he so desires, at this point all the standard stuff applies as have been discussed both in this thread and elsewhere.

Damn I type to much in my answers, but I hope something in all that was helpful for your situation. If I understand things though, the ultimate goal is to give him the idea that you get to hump her, but he only gets to hump you. Which in the wild is a super good outcome for any male that is not pack leader, as normally you don't get to have access to the bitches without taking out the boss dog and assuming his position and all the perks and responsibilities that go with it.

 

[ice bear]

Humping has a number of causes, but the 3 most common causes are: Sexual desire, asserting dominance over another, or stress/fear over something the dog is worried about. The latter usually manifests in the humping of objects though rather than another living animal/human, as humping even with out penetration can still feel good and release chemicals in the brain that help with relaxing or de-stressing.

Is your husky more or less dominant than the pup. Generally one dog will be in charge and the others will follow their lead. If the Husky is top dog, I wouldn't worry to much unless she is getting up in age and can't handle being puppy pounced. Provided she is physically fit and as bad as this sounds the puppy must learn his place and that may require getting a chomp by the Husky. I'm not talking about a full on fight you can't let things go to the extent a vet visit is needed, but... in dog society the way youngsters learn is to push their elders, testing their bounds until they are advised in no uncertain terms they have crossed a line and that line is usually patroled by growls, snarls, and lip curls. On the other side of that line are a set of teeth. Some pups get the point before things turn physical; while others require the point quite literally being driven into there head.

Now based on what you have said I am pretty sure the husky is in charge out of the two of them, but I will cover the alternate situation in case I have misunderstood you.

If the Puppy is trying to become top dog or already is because the Husky always lets him get away with doing what ever he wants, that's a bit more problematic. In this case you do need to intervene to make sure he doesn't hurt her. That is you have to advise him that you as pack leader are not happy about him picking on her to the extent he is. This can be done just by saying his name firmly and "NO!" to issue a warning and if he continues you need to calmly but quickly escort him from the room and close the door. He must associate his immediate previous activity with the result of being separated from the other pack member.
Give him a minute or two to settle and check on him, if he has calmed down again he can re-enter the room. If he hasn't calmed give him another minute or two and check on him again. The idea is to get him out of the hyped up state before he comes back in. If when he re-enters he goes straight back to annoying your Husky girl repeat the process. He should learn very quickly that overly rough behaviour leads to time outs

To a puppy time alone is very bad news, so after a few cycles of this sort of thing, provided you are consistent and repeat the process in a predictable way it will help settle him down a bit.

That said puppies have loads of energy and are notorious for driving everyone in the pack insane, with the prolonged exuberance they insist in sharing with everybody. So make sure you give him a little leeway to a playful puppy, before you start being cop and spoiling all his fun, so maybe let your husky girl draw that line when her body language suggest he being to much for her. But above all be consistent, Once you given the verbal warning you must follow through, if he continues breaking the rules you have set out. If you take him out of the room sometimes and other times let him get away with the bad behaviour it won't work and will be confusing to him.

As for putting him off sex if you reprimand him for humping your girl beyond her point of tolerance, don't worry, he will very much still be interested in her when she is in heat, no matter what you tell him when she is not in heat, pheromones are a powerful call to any dogs nose. That's assuming you are wanting them to have puppies. If however you are wanting him to only be mating with you as you don't want mini-woofers padding around, you will need to keep them separate when she is in heat, which can be a real challenge if they are both inside dogs that spend all their time with you when your home. Also there will probably be much howling involved if he can't get to her when she smells sooooo good. But this is a good time to offer him a substitute for his desires such as I don't know, you maybe. So when your girl is in heat, you should be in heat also. The easiest way to switch his attention to you is to wipe her juices on yourself before getting down on your hands and knees and presenting for him, to sniff and lick, and mount you if he so desires, at this point all the standard stuff applies as have been discussed both in this thread and elsewhere.

Damn I type to much in my answers, but I hope something in all that was helpful for your situation. If I understand things though, the ultimate goal is to give him the idea that you get to hump her, but he only gets to hump you. Which in the wild is a super good outcome for any male that is not pack leader, as normally you don't get to have access to the bitches without taking out the boss dog and assuming his position and all the perks and responsibilities that go with it.

Thanks for the quality reply, you're a gentleman and a scholar.

My husky is definitely the dominant one. She's tough and probably has more endurance than the big pup does, and they don't get into any real fights, so... I guess I could safely let her handle it. He's also a very recent addition to the pack as well as being a puppy so there's a pretty good chance he just needs to learn his lesson. Still, I feel protective of my husky mate. I don't think my pup really respects me in "bad cop" mode yet, but I've started saving my husky girl from his horniest fits by standing over him and giving him a big ol' bear hug until he chills out a bit. It calms him down and he doesn't seem to feel too bad about it.

Also yes I am absolutely looking forward to the day when I can try redirecting his attention towards me instead. He just needs a little more time to get mentally and physically mature enough, then this "problem" turns into an opportunity!

 

[HugDoggy]

Thanks for the quality reply, you're a gentleman and a scholar.

My husky is definitely the dominant one. She's tough and probably has more endurance than the big pup does, and they don't get into any real fights, so... I guess I could safely let her handle it. He's also a very recent addition to the pack as well as being a puppy so there's a pretty good chance he just needs to learn his lesson. Still, I feel protective of my husky mate.

As long as they aren't getting toooooo over the top I would tend to let the dogs sort it out, because your not always going to be there to rescue the damsel, unless your lucky enough to be able to take them both to work with you.

That said Bigger breed pups can get a bit carried away at times and due to there size and those big un-coordinated limbs that seem to have mind of their own at times. They might accidentally do harm to a smaller dog, so supervision is still important when you can, but I strongly suspect despite the sound track they are playing, that you mate has things well in paw if you give her the chance to educate junior.

I don't think my pup really respects me in "bad cop" mode yet, but I've started saving my husky girl from his horniest fits by standing over him and giving him a big ol' bear hug until he chills out a bit. It calms him down and he doesn't seem to feel too bad about it.

Yep that works, What your doing is breaking him out of the moment which is the key thing, just as long as he doesn't start to see it as a reward; since your stopping what you're doing and giving him a hug (attention). So in his head the cogs might start turning why did I get this hug... Oh I know it was for climbing on my pack mate, I know how to do that, I'm good at it too.

Depending on the size and weight of the pup if you can get them onto there back between your legs via rolling or tipping him carefully sideways. So your sitting on the ground with your legs apart and an upside down wriggling puppy cradled by the bumpers of your legs and their head using your lap as a pillow. It can be a good calming position as you can hold them still fairly easy, they can't roll easily upright again over your legs and it is putting them into a submissive position. Asserting your dominance in a very subtle and gentle way so they are literally looking up to you as being above them. Only try this though if you can handle the dog easily without the risk of hurting either of you and if rolling him make sure his tail doesn't get bend backwards or in some direction it's not supposed to bend.

Also yes I am absolutely looking forward to the day when I can try redirecting his attention towards me instead. He just needs a little more time to get mentally and physically mature enough, then this "problem" turns into an opportunity!

That will be a glorious day to be sure. Odds are the humping at the moment though is not a sexual thing as much as a game to him, if he's still quite young, but in time that will change, because as I said last time, humping does feel good as it wiggles things around in the under carriage area, which feels nice and pleasurable. As he grows and mature he will want to find ways to reproduce those good feelings and you might have to hide all your plush toys, pillows etc. if he is getting admonished for humping his current big soft fluffy husky chew toy.

 

[Labraguy5]

Thanks for the quality reply, you're a gentleman and a scholar.

My husky is definitely the dominant one. She's tough and probably has more endurance than the big pup does, and they don't get into any real fights, so... I guess I could safely let her handle it. He's also a very recent addition to the pack as well as being a puppy so there's a pretty good chance he just needs to learn his lesson. Still, I feel protective of my husky mate. I don't think my pup really respects me in "bad cop" mode yet, but I've started saving my husky girl from his horniest fits by standing over him and giving him a big ol' bear hug until he chills out a bit. It calms him down and he doesn't seem to feel too bad about it.

Also yes I am absolutely looking forward to the day when I can try redirecting his attention towards me instead. He just needs a little more time to get mentally and physically mature enough, then this "problem" turns into an opportunity!

Eventually she will loose her patience and show him some tough love, but this is normal for adult dogs to teach their young some manners. Dogs in the same pack usually won't hurt one another intentionally, but be prepared to break it up if things get out of hand. I went through this with my intact boy when I first got my spayed girl, over time she had enough of his efforts and kicked his ass one day with rough play fighting, chasing him around the house which he didn't like one bit. He still tries his luck occasionally, but she just turns around and play bites his neck and growls and he runs off like a naughty boy

Another technique you could try is to stand up tall and walk into his side, pushing him with your legs while saying "move!" in a deep voice until he walks away. It will snap him out of it and show that you're the boss and the space around your girl is yours now. Over time and with repetition saying "move!" will work on it's own unless he's really fixed on what he's doing. Dogs are really good with picking up on routines and conditions, like peeing outside as opposed to peeing in the house as an example. The same can go for humping, so telling him off for doing it in the kitchen doesn't necessarily mean it's not allowed in the bedroom.