How can I handle performance issues?

[GAThrawn]

Not sure which forum this necessarily belongs in, or if it's been asked before, so feel free to move it if it needs to be, please. But I'm really down right now and I've been close to crying for almost 2 hours. I love my girl more than anything and I've been trying to mate with her for 2 months now. Along the way, I met a couple of like-minded zoo friends IRL. They all got along with my girl and she them and, as I've been having trouble doing anything, I invited them to try in the hopes they could guide me or tell me what I'm doing wrong assuming they had more success than I did. They have all been really respectful. But today, one of them came up to visit and, in what was basically just his 3rd or so attempt, he successfully fucked her to orgasm. This has really discouraged me to the point where I don't even know if I want to be a zoo anymore. Like I don't even want to try anymore because I don't see what the point of failing is.

She won't do it inside the house, it HAS to be outside. She will NOT go onto her back ever. She is too tall for sitting/kneeling. The only way I have even come close to doing anything, and it's the method he used, is squatting below her vulva and then pushing his body up into a half-standing position. I know it can't just be physical, he and I are very similar in size and girth. But I just can't do it. Most of the time I'm too floppy and the few times I did manage to get inside, it just started to bend over itself before I could push through. I've wanted to share romance with a dog for most of my life and now that I'm finally in a position to do so, it seems impossible. I'm already 2 or 3 times as old as most people who've had their first experience, 32 years of age, and issues aren't going to get any better with age. I'm already having ED before the average minimum age. What do I do? Do I jack off too much? Am I too submissive enough for her to not want to stand still? I can't swallow pills so the obvious solution is out.

Now keep in mind I didn't get my dog just for sex. I love her dearly and will spend my whole life making sure she has the best possible life I can give her and will cherish her for as long as she's alive. I've just really wanted this moment to mean something for both of us and I wanted it to be a special bond between us but now I am no longer her first so to her it will just be another dick. Am I alone out there? Am I just stupid? Help

 

[FloofyNewfie]

I'm already having ED before the average minimum age. What do I do? Do I jack off too much? Am I too submissive enough for her to not want to stand still? I can't swallow pills so the obvious solution is out.

There are plenty of alternatives for ED, rather than Viagra being the "fix all" solution. If you smoke, drink, or are overweight you'll want to make some lifestyle changes sooner rather than later, otherwise the problem will indeed get worse. You've already been at this for 2 months, with some drastic lifestyle changes you may see yourself better able to preform in another 2 months. Also, I would stop masturbating for awhile, at least 3-5 days maybe more. That should allow you to build up some sexual tension. But, I am curious as to why you've taken pills completely out of the equation? Viagra is stupid easy to get, heck you can even get a prescription online. Fill out a lengthy questionnaire, have a brief chat with a doctor from the comfort of your own home and they'll mail you some pills which you can expect in 10-20 business days.

Not only that, but there are alternatives as well. https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/ed-natural-treatments

I've just really wanted this moment to mean something for both of us and I wanted it to be a special bond between us but now I am no longer her first so to her it will just be another dick. Am I alone out there?

Well, I really do hate to break it to you, but canines are not monogamous creatures. For canines, sex is either for reproductive purposes and/or pleasure. A lot of times they are not all that picky about where this pleasure comes from. But I can tell you from experience that my girl (while definitely fine with sleeping with other males) enjoys it with me the most. I can tell that just from her body language. We're bonded, and there's nothing more special that receiving pleasure from their most favorite human. I would have loved to take my newfie girl's virginity as well, but she had at least 4 other human males mate with her before I got her. It doesn't stop me from seeing her as a partner pretty much equivalent to my wife.

I know you're stressing because as humans we've been programmed since childhood to see sex as something sacred. It's the classic "honeymoon deflowering" mindset rooted in traditionalist values. But if you are able to look past your typical sapient programming you'll see that in reality sex is nothing more than your brain releasing a cocktail of feel good chemicals. Although, I know this is WAY easier said than done. Humans are emotionally driven creatures after all, and your emotions are something you honestly cannot fight against and win, most of the time.

I don't think there's too much more that I can add to this, other than to maybe suggest seeing if she'd be comfortable standing on a bed while you stand on the floor. Or see about getting a stepping stool and a couple of pillows and kneeling on it to align yourself to her tract. I know from experience that "squat fucking" is a pain in the ass when you're not thin and in shape. There has been many of times where I got too exhausted and lost my erection. It took months to find something that worked for me (the bed trick) and you'll probably have better luck when she's in heat and desperately horny.

 

[Smokin5150]

Consider a cock ring. They are great training wheels bc when you are experiencing ED issues your mind becomes your worst enemy. If you feel yourself losing your erection, your mind will make it a certainty. A good cock ring can give you that extra confidence. Once you have your mojo back, you can see if you still need it. In my case, I didnt.

 

[Erraneous_bocephus]

First, I would ask what you thought was going to happen when you invited your friends to try with her? Because one of them was successful doesn't change anything for you two. Dogs don't care who their first was and now at least you know she is physically capable of the act.

You seem to have some anxiety about the issue and that will sure enough not help the situation. I had(and sometimes still do) have performance issues when playing with canines and a lot of it seems to come from the heightened excitement of the whole thing and I noticed that as I became more comfortable and relaxed about it all, the situation got better.

I would slowly work with her inside the house and in positions that might be more comfortable to you both and see if she comes around. In my case, over time, I found that my dane was okay with "forking" and this position is also really comfortable for me so it just works.

As a stop-gap, until you can get your mind settled about it all, viagra is a pretty small pill and generic sildenafil (same active med and much cheaper) is downright tiny. You absolutely can swallow one if you want or you could crush it and put it in pudding or something.

The feelings and issues you are experiencing aren't really that uncommon and they can be overcome. Don't let it get to you so much and you'll get there. When you do, the bond that you share with your girl will make any intimacy between you two much more special than what she experienced with your friend, so don't stress.

 

[FloofyNewfie]

First, I would ask what you thought was going to happen when you invited your friends to try with her?

This... more than anything else, I suppose. If GAT here had an issue with someone else taking the virginity of his canine partner, he should have specified something like, "Hey, I'm having issues successfully mating with my female doggy partner. I really want to be her first, and I really want to be the one that takes her virginity. But would you mind showing me how you would court her and get into her?"

Most benevolent zoos, including myself, would not have an issue with this request/restriction. As, while I understand that for a canine sex is just mutual pleasure for her. I do understand that some Zoos want to be their canine lover's first time, and for many zoos, including GAT here this aspect means a lot to them.

 

[Erraneous_bocephus]

I do understand that some Zoos want to be their canine lover's first time, and for many zoos, including GAT here this aspect means a lot to them.

Definitely. Truthfully it's important to me as well but I wouldn't let it taint the relationship I have with a dog if I hadn't been. That was mainly what I was getting at.

 

[Porky]

It looks like you can crush Viagra tablets and put the powder under your tongue. (This is not safe for a lot of medications. Viagra appears to be an exception.) Read:

The start of pharmacological activity after sublingual administration of sildenafil citrate in 30 patients affected by erectile dysfunction - PubMed

Even though ours is a limited study, our clinical data points out that the sublingual administration of Sildenafil is useful because of the rapid onset unrelated to meals. All the patients were reported to appreciate this method of administration, particularly in the case of unplanned sexual...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

Also:

Sublingual sildenafil in the treatment of erectile dysfunction: faster onset of action with less dose - PubMed

20 mg sublingual sildenafil is safe and effective in the treatment of erectile dysfunction. Sublingual administration has some advantages as it is not effected by food ingestion and quickly appears in the circulation. These advantages provide a faster onset of action with a lower dose when...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

it looks like the recommended dosage is MUCH lower when done this way. Reminder that you DO NOT want to take a huge overdose figuring that you'll fuck all night, because hours-long erections cut off the blood supply to your dick, which WILL result in permanent damage.

Viagra is also definitely available as an injectable. They use it to treat infants with certain heart/lung problems. A nurse who mentioned it to me said she got a laugh out of the baby boys with baby stiffies. They give it to infants using an IV; for adults, you'd need to learn to use a syringe, just like a diabetic.

There are, or were, ED drugs that are administered by spraying them up your nose. Talk to a quack about getting a prescription for one of those. I thought Cialis was one of them, but maybe they stopped producing that form.

There's also this stuff:

Prostaglandin E1 - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

which I'd never heard of before, but apparently you push a suppository up your urethra. There may also be an ointment, presumably that you rub on the area you'd expect. Says it's been around for decades.

Lastly, it looks like Viagra can be used in the form of a gel or a patch. It's not clear if either form is being made right now. There are articles mentioning using it with DMSO or PEG, but only a very few and none that I spotted that talked about formulating it. Worst case, you can call a compounding pharmacy and see if they have any suggestions, then ask a quack for a prescription. Warning, despite its longstanding use by the horsey crowd, DMSO might cause retinal damage; it's not clear whether the in vitro studies apply in vivo, especially since no one uses nearly enough to reach the kinds of concentrations the in vitro studies warn about; still, cumulative damage is a thing.