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Hiding zoo from partner.

Lickmypussy said:
I'm just wondering if there are people who hide their desires from their spouse? How do you find time for your desires? My dog has been begging to eat me out. But my spouse is always around. He doesn't know about this. I'm afraid if he found out he would out me to everyone I know. So I want to keep it secret. But I also want my boy to get what he wants.
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Sadness poor boy
 
jessica_hottie said:
well why hiding? When I think about it from a rational point of view, I cannot see anything wrong in having fallen in love with my boy and in giving each other the sexual pleasure nature has made us so well capable of giving to each other. Still, the stigma from society is so strong, I think I would not have the strength to be singled out as a perverted bitch. so, since I started my love relationship with my boy after quitting my relationship with a moron of a man, I have become zoo only and I am very happy with it and I think I will stay like this for the foresiable future.

I am confident that in the future we will be accepted in society like normal decent people, like it has happened for gay people, but I am not sure this will happen in my lifetime
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100 % agree ! (y)
 
Lickmypussy said:
I'm just wondering if there are people who hide their desires from their spouse? How do you find time for your desires? My dog has been begging to eat me out. But my spouse is always around. He doesn't know about this. I'm afraid if he found out he would out me to everyone I know. So I want to keep it secret. But I also want my boy to get what he wants.
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Trust in a couple is all that matters. After more than 30 years of marriage, my husband and I didn't start having fun right away. These were mutual discoveries that we started to live together. There's nothing better than that. I hope you find your way.
 
jessica_hottie said:
well why hiding? When I think about it from a rational point of view, I cannot see anything wrong in having fallen in love with my boy and in giving each other the sexual pleasure nature has made us so well capable of giving to each other. Still, the stigma from society is so strong, I think I would not have the strength to be singled out as a perverted bitch. so, since I started my love relationship with my boy after quitting my relationship with a moron of a man, I have become zoo only and I am very happy with it and I think I will stay like this for the foresiable future.

I am confident that in the future we will be accepted in society like normal decent people, like it has happened for gay people, but I am not sure this will happen in my lifetime
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I loved your words. In fact, every day people are getting closer to zoo, accepting this way of love for themselves and for other people. The day will come when zoo will be something normal.

But I agree whit you, I think it will still take a few generations.
 
To what degree do you think the taboo side of it is in fact part of the appeal...

Are we seeing new frontiers pushing the previously established "no-go" boundaries?
 
I think hiding it can lead to a lot of resentment in the relationship with partner as I have experienced. Of course the ideal would be to find that perfect someone who is also accepting of it. There are some people that behave in poor ways in places like this that make seeking a real connection extremely difficult for the good ones 🙋🏻‍♂️
 
Lickmypussy said:
I'm just wondering if there are people who hide their desires from their spouse? How do you find time for your desires? My dog has been begging to eat me out. But my spouse is always around. He doesn't know about this. I'm afraid if he found out he would out me to everyone I know. So I want to keep it secret. But I also want my boy to get what he wants.
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I try to be pretty open about it honestly, my last few ex's knew and we're mostly ok with it. As for options probably going somewhere you know is safe, or away from the house i'd suppose.
 
As much as I would want to be open with my partner about this, I suspect the outcome would be disastrous. It could ruin my entire life if anyone in my personal life found out about this. So I understand your pain.
 
Lickmypussy said:
I'm just wondering if there are people who hide their desires from their spouse? How do you find time for your desires? My dog has been begging to eat me out. But my spouse is always around. He doesn't know about this. I'm afraid if he found out he would out me to everyone I know. So I want to keep it secret. But I also want my boy to get what he wants.
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It's almost impossible to know how anyone will react to the information but you have to trust that if they really love you they will try and understand it for you. Don't expect them to get on board or join in but the honesty can make your relationship stronger 💪🏻
 
Dont stop looking until you find someone, its possible. I did it, and I've been on cloud 9, for over a year now! Its something that if it's legit, never goes away. Only gets stronger.
 
Loyal friends don't discuss others kinks unless it is with them directly and in a consensual context. They bring up, " hey i want to share this moment with you and just be here for us for the moment o.k." You observe their actions and if asked to interact you do so at their guidance and understand the level of trust and confidence of this act. You are there as a participant observer, making sure of the safety of the individual and their aftercare.
 
Lickmypussy said:
I'm just wondering if there are people who hide their desires from their spouse? How do you find time for your desires? My dog has been begging to eat me out. But my spouse is always around. He doesn't know about this. I'm afraid if he found out he would out me to everyone I know. So I want to keep it secret. But I also want my boy to get what he wants.
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I think the general rule is just don’t tell anyone even your partners, he may be into it too but he also may be against it and could cause problems. Maybe you can kinda give hints in subtle ways without saying it directly and then see if he says anything first then like if he’s into it too which a lot of men/women actually are he may be more confident in bringing it up if that’s something he’s thought about. Be safe, hopefully it’s the best outcome for you both
 
Dirtyfarmer807 said:
I sometimes wish I could go back in time and focus on finding someone I could share this life with. The truth is, you will feel alone in any relationship if you keep secrets. However, after seeing how many (most?) of the men act on here, you may have difficulty finding a decent partner here and I have no idea where else you could go.

The important thing is that this lifestyle exposes you to extreme risk. Just imagine every one you know and love knowing. Add being in jail or public court proceedings. I don't want to scare you off the idea of sharing your secret, but be very careful.
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Being a gay single guy who's actually decent sucks because everyone else ruins it.
 
Lickmypussy said:
I'm just wondering if there are people who hide their desires from their spouse? How do you find time for your desires? My dog has been begging to eat me out. But my spouse is always around. He doesn't know about this. I'm afraid if he found out he would out me to everyone I know. So I want to keep it secret. But I also want my boy to get what he wants.
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My ex found out and we got divorced. Current bf is a zoo also- so way easier now.
 
Lickmypussy said:
I'm just wondering if there are people who hide their desires from their spouse? How do you find time for your desires? My dog has been begging to eat me out. But my spouse is always around. He doesn't know about this. I'm afraid if he found out he would out me to everyone I know. So I want to keep it secret. But I also want my boy to get what he wants.
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So I’ve had experiences and strong desires around this particular kink. I’ve never told anyone for fear of judgement.

Fast forward to my last relationship and one night him try and get his dog to lick me! Now not even 12 hours before this I had my parents dog right between my legs giving me orgasm after orgasm. You’d think I’d be elated that he was open to this kind of thing but it had the opposite effect and I shut the whole thing down.

Even as I’m typing this I’m still confused about why I reacted the way I did. If I’d have given into my desires then I’d have someone who enjoyed it as much as I did and was willing to explore with me.

Ironically, all I want now is to meet someone o can share this whole experience with.
 
justagirly said:
So I’ve had experiences and strong desires around this particular kink. I’ve never told anyone for fear of judgement.

Fast forward to my last relationship and one night him try and get his dog to lick me! Now not even 12 hours before this I had my parents dog right between my legs giving me orgasm after orgasm. You’d think I’d be elated that he was open to this kind of thing but it had the opposite effect and I shut the whole thing down.

Even as I’m typing this I’m still confused about why I reacted the way I did. If I’d have given into my desires then I’d have someone who enjoyed it as much as I did and was willing to explore with me.

Ironically, all I want now is to meet someone o can share this whole experience with.
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I feel identified, I often wonder what would have happened if I hadn't broken up with my ex, with whom I shared some fetishes, we would have also shared this one!!
 
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