Faithful?

lilabit

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I'm wondering how many people on here are maybe in a relationship with someone, yet cheats for whatever reason, or what your thoughts on unfaithfulness are.

Personally, I am in a relationship, and am unfaithful. I still chat with an old f*ck buddy, though we no longer meet since he moved away. My f*ck buddy is actually why I'm exploring zoo, which I definitely could not do with my current partner. My partner, lovely as he is, is simply a scoop of vanilla ice cream. A fine, reliable flavor indeed, but I need some excitement here and there that can only be found elsewhere.

I suppose maybe I'm looking for some solidarity in this. Whether you feel that it's wrong, or maybe it's a fetish for you to cheat, I wanna know your thoughts.

For everyone else, please do not come in with bashful comments. I personally understand the harm and damage that can come with cheating in a relationship. If I'm being honest, it's likely a defence mechanism for me now since it happened to me. I am not proud of it, nor myself. But I want to have an open, safe discussion about this and why we do it.

Thanks for reading my big block of text. Hope to hear some interesting takes. :)
 
I'm wondering how many people on here are maybe in a relationship with someone, yet cheats for whatever reason, or what your thoughts on unfaithfulness are.

Personally, I am in a relationship, and am unfaithful. I still chat with an old f*ck buddy, though we no longer meet since he moved away. My f*ck buddy is actually why I'm exploring zoo, which I definitely could not do with my current partner. My partner, lovely as he is, is simply a scoop of vanilla ice cream. A fine, reliable flavor indeed, but I need some excitement here and there that can only be found elsewhere.

I suppose maybe I'm looking for some solidarity in this. Whether you feel that it's wrong, or maybe it's a fetish for you to cheat, I wanna know your thoughts.

For everyone else, please do not come in with bashful comments. I personally understand the harm and damage that can come with cheating in a relationship. If I'm being honest, it's likely a defence mechanism for me now since it happened to me. I am not proud of it, nor myself. But I want to have an open, safe discussion about this and why we do it.

Thanks for reading my big block of text. Hope to hear some interesting takes. :)
To be blunt, in the situation you described, you're a piece of a shit.

Break things off with your SO, or open up to them, but don't cheat. I guess for you, it's all little late for that at this point.

I don't think you should just get solidarity for cheating. You're inflicting real harm on another person, and it will come out.

You could be cheating for any number of reasons - and there are degrees of cheating. In the end, it sounds like you're actively having sex with another person behind your SO's back, unless I misunderstood. As such, yeah, you're a piece of shit.
 
I'm wondering how many people on here are maybe in a relationship with someone, yet cheats for whatever reason, or what your thoughts on unfaithfulness are.

Personally, I am in a relationship, and am unfaithful. I still chat with an old f*ck buddy, though we no longer meet since he moved away. My f*ck buddy is actually why I'm exploring zoo, which I definitely could not do with my current partner. My partner, lovely as he is, is simply a scoop of vanilla ice cream. A fine, reliable flavor indeed, but I need some excitement here and there that can only be found elsewhere.

I suppose maybe I'm looking for some solidarity in this. Whether you feel that it's wrong, or maybe it's a fetish for you to cheat, I wanna know your thoughts.

For everyone else, please do not come in with bashful comments. I personally understand the harm and damage that can come with cheating in a relationship. If I'm being honest, it's likely a defence mechanism for me now since it happened to me. I am not proud of it, nor myself. But I want to have an open, safe discussion about this and why we do it.

Thanks for reading my big block of text. Hope to hear some interesting takes. :)

First of all, reading your text shows me, that you are struggling with the current situation and also with the fact, that you are in a way comfortable with that situation, as it sorts your problem for the moment..at least that’s how I understand it.

I am neither in the position to blame you nor is that my intention in general.
I think everyone should be responsible for their actions and that is it.
Also, I have been in the same situation like you, so I can pretty much understand where you’re coming from, although it is not the most comfortable and happy situation at all.
Sometimes you have some special needs and even if you really love your partner, you cannot fulfil these needs and I absolutely understand you in that point.
The most important question is, how to deal with it, what is more important, your relationship and a trustful relation with your partner or fulfilling you are very special needs.and this is the question everyone has to answer for themselves.
 
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. I think it’s totally understandable that you have to hide your passion for petlove. I guess your partner may not share your interest in zoo and you need to express your desires some way or another. I don’t think your a piece of shit. I just think you have to be honest with your partner or just let them go. Not everyone is brave enough to admit to significant other there kinks and sexual needs. At the end of the day it’s your life to live how you want. Good luck and I wish you well
 
I'm in a relationship and faithful, but i guess if you count zoo porn as cheating then ive got a bad streak. i would never betray my SO and be with another human, but something about crossing the species barrier doesnt strike me as cheating...she is my human partner, and having an animal (if i could) alongside my current relationship doesnt cross me as something terrible.
 
This is actually something that I've thought about a lot over the last year or so. Someone who was very important to me and someone who I cared about and trusted more than anybody in this world, hurt me in a really big way. Technically, she didn't cheat. With that said, she knew exactly how I felt and where I stood and she was very dishonest both in her actions and in her words. This really put me in a bad place.

Knowing that, my relationship with her actually started out with her cheating on her husband. I haven't been with many partners, but out of the 3 that I've been with, they have all been with married women. It's not something that I've been seeking out and it's not something that I'm necessarily proud of, but it is what it is and getting that connection with someone is better than sitting there feeling lonely and not having that connection at all.

All 3 relationships have fallen on different sides of the coin. 1 unethical, 1 ethical, and 1 on the side of the coin in the grey area. I feel like there is a place for cheating, but only as an absolute last resort. If you're looking outside of your relationship, it's important to ask yourself why you do it and how would this affect my partner? It's typically a sign that things aren't what you want or you simply aren't happy. If you being unfaithful would hurt your partner, then it's important to re-evaluate things and decide if it's worth potentially hurting him with your actions. You experienced it yourself. You know how much it hurts when someone betrays you. Are you ok with putting someone else through that? If so, then carry on and don't worry about it. If not, then I'd consider ending the relationship.

There are also a lot of other variables that can go into a decision like this. Cheating may help you decide that you really do like what you have and that you want to stay. It may also show that you'd rather have what's out there instead of in your relationship and that you need to end things. It's all dependent on the situation.

I hope this helps. I'm always up for DM's or questions. Have a wonderful day!
 
This is actually something that I've thought about a lot over the last year or so. Someone who was very important to me and someone who I cared about and trusted more than anybody in this world, hurt me in a really big way. Technically, she didn't cheat. With that said, she knew exactly how I felt and where I stood and she was very dishonest both in her actions and in her words. This really put me in a bad place.

Knowing that, my relationship with her actually started out with her cheating on her husband. I haven't been with many partners, but out of the 3 that I've been with, they have all been with married women. It's not something that I've been seeking out and it's not something that I'm necessarily proud of, but it is what it is and getting that connection with someone is better than sitting there feeling lonely and not having that connection at all.

All 3 relationships have fallen on different sides of the coin. 1 unethical, 1 ethical, and 1 on the side of the coin in the grey area. I feel like there is a place for cheating, but only as an absolute last resort. If you're looking outside of your relationship, it's important to ask yourself why you do it and how would this affect my partner? It's typically a sign that things aren't what you want or you simply aren't happy. If you being unfaithful would hurt your partner, then it's important to re-evaluate things and decide if it's worth potentially hurting him with your actions. You experienced it yourself. You know how much it hurts when someone betrays you. Are you ok with putting someone else through that? If so, then carry on and don't worry about it. If not, then I'd consider ending the relationship.

There are also a lot of other variables that can go into a decision like this. Cheating may help you decide that you really do like what you have and that you want to stay. It may also show that you'd rather have what's out there instead of in your relationship and that you need to end things. It's all dependent on the situation.

I hope this helps. I'm always up for DM's or questions. Have a wonderful day!
Wise words.
 
I'm wondering how many people on here are maybe in a relationship with someone, yet cheats for whatever reason, or what your thoughts on unfaithfulness are.

Personally, I am in a relationship, and am unfaithful. I still chat with an old f*ck buddy, though we no longer meet since he moved away. My f*ck buddy is actually why I'm exploring zoo, which I definitely could not do with my current partner. My partner, lovely as he is, is simply a scoop of vanilla ice cream. A fine, reliable flavor indeed, but I need some excitement here and there that can only be found elsewhere.

I suppose maybe I'm looking for some solidarity in this. Whether you feel that it's wrong, or maybe it's a fetish for you to cheat, I wanna know your thoughts.

For everyone else, please do not come in with bashful comments. I personally understand the harm and damage that can come with cheating in a relationship. If I'm being honest, it's likely a defence mechanism for me now since it happened to me. I am not proud of it, nor myself. But I want to have an open, safe discussion about this and why we do it.

Thanks for reading my big block of text. Hope to hear some interesting takes. :)
Look, I won't be abrasive, but yeah, it's wrong. You had options, you could've tried to open the relationship, break it up or even turn it into an arrangement.

But to just do that to your current partner tells me that you don't give a flying fuck about him. You really should break up if you care about this person, because otherwise you're using him.
 
Look, I won't be abrasive, but yeah, it's wrong. You had options, you could've tried to open the relationship, break it up or even turn it into an arrangement.

But to just do that to your current partner tells me that you don't give a flying fuck about him. You really should break up if you care about this person, because otherwise you're using him.
Well said
 
I'm wondering how many people on here are maybe in a relationship with someone, yet cheats for whatever reason, or what your thoughts on unfaithfulness are.

Personally, I am in a relationship, and am unfaithful. I still chat with an old f*ck buddy, though we no longer meet since he moved away. My f*ck buddy is actually why I'm exploring zoo, which I definitely could not do with my current partner. My partner, lovely as he is, is simply a scoop of vanilla ice cream. A fine, reliable flavor indeed, but I need some excitement here and there that can only be found elsewhere.

I suppose maybe I'm looking for some solidarity in this. Whether you feel that it's wrong, or maybe it's a fetish for you to cheat, I wanna know your thoughts.

For everyone else, please do not come in with bashful comments. I personally understand the harm and damage that can come with cheating in a relationship. If I'm being honest, it's likely a defence mechanism for me now since it happened to me. I am not proud of it, nor myself. But I want to have an open, safe discussion about this and why we do it.

Thanks for reading my big block of text. Hope to hear some interesting takes. :)
Not only are you hurting those you lie to it is also hurting yourself. If you can’t be honest with one person let alone yourself, then let them go. I came here to avoid this type of shit in an open community where people should feel welcome and not have to worry about being deceived by one sad little person. I’d wish you good luck but fuck that.
 
To be blunt, in the situation you described, you're a piece of a shit.

Break things off with your SO, or open up to them, but don't cheat. I guess for you, it's all little late for that at this point.

I don't think you should just get solidarity for cheating. You're inflicting real harm on another person, and it will come out.

You could be cheating for any number of reasons - and there are degrees of cheating. In the end, it sounds like you're actively having sex with another person behind your SO's back, unless I misunderstood. As such, yeah, you're a piece of shit.
put down the bible jesus, cheating is not even that bad and only because of negative feelings like jelousy and envy it is seen as such, people should get over themselves. you are telling me that it is wrong to have pleasure that literally hurts no one? it is jelousy and envy, you do not want anyone else to have what you have, so you shun the idea of even others doing it. you only came here to try to shame this person, you didn't contribute anything, you didn't say anything new, you are just here, saying what other have told you to say.

fin del comunicado.
 
I'm wondering how many people on here are maybe in a relationship with someone, yet cheats for whatever reason, or what your thoughts on unfaithfulness are.

Personally, I am in a relationship, and am unfaithful. I still chat with an old f*ck buddy, though we no longer meet since he moved away. My f*ck buddy is actually why I'm exploring zoo, which I definitely could not do with my current partner. My partner, lovely as he is, is simply a scoop of vanilla ice cream. A fine, reliable flavor indeed, but I need some excitement here and there that can only be found elsewhere.

I suppose maybe I'm looking for some solidarity in this. Whether you feel that it's wrong, or maybe it's a fetish for you to cheat, I wanna know your thoughts.

For everyone else, please do not come in with bashful comments. I personally understand the harm and damage that can come with cheating in a relationship. If I'm being honest, it's likely a defence mechanism for me now since it happened to me. I am not proud of it, nor myself. But I want to have an open, safe discussion about this and why we do it.

Thanks for reading my big block of text. Hope to hear some interesting takes. :)
Regarding the person with whom you're living, you didn't say, specifically, what kind of relationship it is, or how deep.
There are different kinds of relationships.
For example, has "I love you" ever been said by either of you? That makes a big difference in the dynamic, and spells it out.
Was anything said to him implying he is all you'll ever need, or the same by him?
Was there any indication of how long the relationship might go on when it started?
Was there any implication made by you that you might be looking around as, and when, you deem necessary?
Have you spelled out your unfulfilled needs to him, giving him a chance to fulfill them?
Lastly, and I mean no offense by this, but is it your belief that YOU are fulfilling all of HIS needs?
 
It's something im contemplating. My wife has got so lazy, she won't do half the stuff she used to and doesn't ever initiate anything on her own then gets mad if I don't do anything for a few days. It's getting to the point that my interest in sex is shot since I'm never in the mood and knowing I have to do everything kills my drive.
 
Not only are you hurting those you lie to it is also hurting yourself. If you can’t be honest with one person let alone yourself, then let them go. I came here to avoid this type of shit in an open community where people should feel welcome and not have to worry about being deceived by one sad little person. I’d wish you good luck but fuck that.
Let me save you the trouble... You're going to find dishonest people everywhere you go, it won't matter where it is. Your best bet is to trust your gut.
 
It's something im contemplating. My wife has got so lazy, she won't do half the stuff she used to and doesn't ever initiate anything on her own then gets mad if I don't do anything for a few days. It's getting to the point that my interest in sex is shot since I'm never in the mood and knowing I have to do everything kills my drive.
Whoa, dude, not cool.

Have you even tried to talk it out with her? You do realize you'll be the dick here if you do that...
 
Don't play with people's feelings and emotions. Be an adult, talk things out, or at least own up to what you're doing.
If you're in an open relationship, fine, but even then- you have to communicate!

I've intentionally avoided being in a relationship. I like having too much fun! If I find someone who makes me want to stay monogamous, then I'll be a truly lucky man.
 
Don't play with people's feelings and emotions. Be an adult, talk things out, or at least own up to what you're doing.
If you're in an open relationship, fine, but even then- you have to communicate!

I've intentionally avoided being in a relationship. I like having too much fun! If I find someone who makes me want to stay monogamous, then I'll be a truly lucky man.
I've avoided relationships as well but for different reasons. I don't communicate at all, it would be about as useful as talking to a brick.
 
It's something im contemplating. My wife has got so lazy, she won't do half the stuff she used to and doesn't ever initiate anything on her own then gets mad if I don't do anything for a few days. It's getting to the point that my interest in sex is shot since I'm never in the mood and knowing I have to do everything kills my drive.
You have to sit down and talk to her. This can be worked out if you're careful not to say anything insulting, and don't let it get confrontational.
 
if your in a relationship and you are fucking someone else and your partner isn't aware, that is cheating and its never okay. It is fine to have an open relationship but discuss it first. If you have to sneak out of the house or hide your phone and texts to another person because your significant other isn't aware or can't know, you are a trash person. No excuse.
 
I'm wondering how many people on here are maybe in a relationship with someone, yet cheats for whatever reason, or what your thoughts on unfaithfulness are.

Personally, I am in a relationship, and am unfaithful. I still chat with an old f*ck buddy, though we no longer meet since he moved away. My f*ck buddy is actually why I'm exploring zoo, which I definitely could not do with my current partner. My partner, lovely as he is, is simply a scoop of vanilla ice cream. A fine, reliable flavor indeed, but I need some excitement here and there that can only be found elsewhere.

I suppose maybe I'm looking for some solidarity in this. Whether you feel that it's wrong, or maybe it's a fetish for you to cheat, I wanna know your thoughts.

For everyone else, please do not come in with bashful comments. I personally understand the harm and damage that can come with cheating in a relationship. If I'm being honest, it's likely a defence mechanism for me now since it happened to me. I am not proud of it, nor myself. But I want to have an open, safe discussion about this and why we do it.

Thanks for reading my big block of text. Hope to hear some interesting takes. :)
Every day I live my time left gets shorter so as I find things of interest that my partner doesn't want to partake, or am afraid to even admit I am forced to make a decision, and eventually my curiosity wins and being able to share with others of like mind is part of the experience
 
To be blunt, in the situation you described, you're a piece of a shit.

Break things off with your SO, or open up to them, but don't cheat. I guess for you, it's all little late for that at this point.

I don't think you should just get solidarity for cheating. You're inflicting real harm on another person, and it will come out.

You could be cheating for any number of reasons - and there are degrees of cheating. In the end, it sounds like you're actively having sex with another person behind your SO's back, unless I misunderstood. As such, yeah, you're a piece of shit
Phew, that was some solid bashing!
Perhaps she does not wish to offend the gentleman; perhaps she wishes to explore the horizon while her companion is in retreat.
Not everyone has the same capacity for understanding as you.
 
Agree or not,
To be blunt, in the situation you described, you're a piece of a shit.

Break things off with your SO, or open up to them, but don't cheat. I guess for you, it's all little late for that at this point.

I don't think you should just get solidarity for cheating. You're inflicting real harm on another person, and it will come out.

You could be cheating for any number of reasons - and there are degrees of cheating. In the end, it sounds like you're actively having sex with another person behind your SO's back, unless I misunderstood. As such, yeah, you're a piece of shit.
this ain't the Dumpster Fire.
 
Either youre straight with your lover or you arent. No one person can be, as someone near and very dear used to say, all things to any one person, but honesty is required in a relationship. If you do not have that, you have nothing. Tell him or get out. Its that simple
 
Trying to pursue this lifestyle has brought me close to it but I fortunately never took the plunge. It was difficult but I have found it’s better to keep my integrity intact.
 
Either youre straight with your lover or you arent. No one person can be, as someone near and very dear used to say, all things to any one person, but honesty is required in a relationship. If you do not have that, you have nothing. Tell him or get out. Its that simple
Broken clocks are right twice a day.
 
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