I’ve been around this forum for a few years now, mostly quietly, occasionally chatting, and even meeting a few local guys. While there have been some fun moments, most connections have faded, which honestly has been discouraging. Except for one interaction, it’s felt like I’m throwing energy into something that disappears the moment I look away.
Part of it, I think, is just how we communicate these days. Everything’s fast, fleeting, and transactional. Instant gratification has kind of replaced the slower process of getting to know someone, of building something real (romantic or platonic). And that’s tough when what you’re looking for isn’t *just* a kink / hookup buddy, but someone you can actually connect with emotionally, intellectually, and sure, physically too if the vibe is there.
For me, this lifestyle isn’t just a side interest it’s part of how I relate to intimacy. But I’m also someone who craves conversation, trust, a bit of silliness, and the kind of connection that’s built over time.
I definitely won’t give up hope but… but I ain’t getting any younger and I know I can’t date someone who’s not a zoo