do you guys think it’s wrong of me to hide this lifestyle from my boyfriend?

Dump him and hook up with me... Or any other guy who wants you to enjoy as many animals as you need!
 
Well.... Feel it out. He might be into it. Honestly if my gf was into dog cock i would wanna know. Id even help or add to it anyway she wants
we’ve had a few more conversations about it and i’ve framed it as a joke but i did tell him i probably would fuck a dog once ‘just to experience it’ if i could and he was still grossed out but like… not as bad?? he would still never be into it i don’t think and i’d still hide any interactions i have from him but i feel better knowing he’s not gonna like. dump me for even thinking of it lol
 
we’ve had a few more conversations about it and i’ve framed it as a joke but i did tell him i probably would fuck a dog once ‘just to experience it’ if i could and he was still grossed out but like… not as bad?? he would still never be into it i don’t think and i’d still hide any interactions i have from him but i feel better knowing he’s not gonna like. dump me for even thinking of it lol
It may be different if he saw it... It might not sound appealing at first. Do you watch porn together? Slip him a video
 
The dildo is a nice touch. My GF thought my dog+women fetish was strange, until I described the knot lock and cum load to her. Then she got interested and asked me to show her some videos. I haven't yet but will soon. Thinking about getting her a doggie dildo too - pavlovian conditioning, so fitting ;)

If your guy is in to Trans girls and doggie dildos, he sounds open enough to at least talk about the subject.
 
It may be different if he saw it... It might not sound appealing at first. Do you watch porn together? Slip him a video
he’s seen animated versions of zoo porn but the one time he thought he saw irl zoo porn he freaked out and was super uncomfortable so idk if he’d ever like the porn tbh,, honestly tho i am comfortable with his rape kink(i have one too but still) and i’m still ok with his odd kinks so i’d like to think he’d accept this being one of mine at some point
 
The dildo is a nice touch. My GF thought my dog+women fetish was strange, until I described the knot lock and cum load to her. Then she got interested and asked me to show her some videos. I haven't yet but will soon. Thinking about getting her a doggie dildo too - pavlovian conditioning, so fitting ;)

If your guy is in to Trans girls and doggie dildos, he sounds open enough to at least talk about the subject.
we both literally have rape and age play kinks idk how he draws the line at zoo? i let him call me mommy even tho we’re both literally gay men so he should accept me being a zoo lmao i hope once he tries the knot dildo he’ll come around 👀👀
 
I think it depends a bit on time you’ve been together and if you are a practising animal lover I just like to watch
 
i’m not rly asking for actual advice but i’ve been thinking about this for a while and feel the need to talk about it!

i’ve been with my boyfriend for a while and i love him so much, i really wanna marry him in the future but i have to hide this side of me from him because he’s so, SOO against the idea of zoos. he says some nasty stuff about it a lot and has said so many times if he knew a zoo or was friends w one he’d report them to the police - and i’m just kind of sitting there pretending that i’m not a zoo in secret. i’ve never had any irl zoo experiences and i’m still trying to have one but having to hide it and sneak around my bf is exhausting, constantly erasing my porn history and only accessing this site thru incognito windows.

does that make me a bad person or am i just keeping myself safe?
I can see how exhausting that would be,
i’m not rly asking for actual advice but i’ve been thinking about this for a while and feel the need to talk about it!

i’ve been with my boyfriend for a while and i love him so much, i really wanna marry him in the future but i have to hide this side of me from him because he’s so, SOO against the idea of zoos. he says some nasty stuff about it a lot and has said so many times if he knew a zoo or was friends w one he’d report them to the police - and i’m just kind of sitting there pretending that i’m not a zoo in secret. i’ve never had any irl zoo experiences and i’m still trying to have one but having to hide it and sneak around my bf is exhausting, constantly erasing my porn history and only accessing this site thru incognito windows.

does that make me a bad person or am i just keeping myself safe?
I think your thoughts are absolutely fine, love to talk to you about this anytime you want
 
I definitely don't think your a bad person but if it's something you really want you might want to consider if your BF is the right person for you. I know you said you been with him awhile and I'm sure your have feelings for him bit if he feels so strongly about the subject I would be scared if he ever did find out and if it were me that would really scare me.

It's a total secret for me to but I've never even had anyone in my life bring this lifestyle up so if he is already so negative on the subject that's a huge red flag for me

Just be careful and stay safe!
I am happy to talk about this anytime, no judgement from me
 
Hi there, I'm new here.. but i can relate to much of what you're saying. To us, the want or need is genuine and feels completely natural, to some exciting and others both..

But, if your partner or friends mention the law.. That is more than risky, it's life changing.. just be safe.
 
i’m not rly asking for actual advice but i’ve been thinking about this for a while and feel the need to talk about it!

i’ve been with my boyfriend for a while and i love him so much, i really wanna marry him in the future but i have to hide this side of me from him because he’s so, SOO against the idea of zoos. he says some nasty stuff about it a lot and has said so many times if he knew a zoo or was friends w one he’d report them to the police - and i’m just kind of sitting there pretending that i’m not a zoo in secret. i’ve never had any irl zoo experiences and i’m still trying to have one but having to hide it and sneak around my bf is exhausting, constantly erasing my porn history and only accessing this site thru incognito windows.

does that make me a bad person or am i just keeping myself safe?
Sharing every detail about yourself and requiring acceptance of it all is overrated. It sounds like there's no upside to sharing this with him.
 
Just a point of view, not say it's true with your BF.

When i whas younger there where also talks about sex with animals and vid's going around on phones, i also acted like i whas totally disgusted about it, in the meantime no one did know what whas going in my head, it whas more like a instant self defense reaction to act totally disgusted while when i whas at home playing with dog's.

Again not saying it's the case with your BF.

Not everything has to be what you think it is.
 
i’m not rly asking for actual advice but i’ve been thinking about this for a while and feel the need to talk about it!

i’ve been with my boyfriend for a while and i love him so much, i really wanna marry him in the future but i have to hide this side of me from him because he’s so, SOO against the idea of zoos. he says some nasty stuff about it a lot and has said so many times if he knew a zoo or was friends w one he’d report them to the police - and i’m just kind of sitting there pretending that i’m not a zoo in secret. i’ve never had any irl zoo experiences and i’m still trying to have one but having to hide it and sneak around my bf is exhausting, constantly erasing my porn history and only accessing this site thru incognito windows.

does that make me a bad person or am i just keeping myself safe?

Keeping yourself safe... especially if he specified that he would out some one
 
I definitely don't think your a bad person but if it's something you really want you might want to consider if your BF is the right person for you. I know you said you been with him awhile and I'm sure your have feelings for him bit if he feels so strongly about the subject I would be scared if he ever did find out and if it were me that would really scare me.

It's a total secret for me to but I've never even had anyone in my life bring this lifestyle up so if he is already so negative on the subject that's a huge red flag for me

Just be careful and stay safe!
Couldn’t have said it better!
 
I have never told anyone that I was in a relationship with, always been afraid to. Just never know how they will respond.
Same with me. I date and have bfs, but I keep my lifestyle with shadow a super secret. I have never been able to be honest about it for fear of well…everything. I am not sure if it is because I am keeping it a secret and there is some effect, but I haven’t had any really long term relationships so it hasn’t been a big problem

If I do meet someone I think is amazing for me and a good fit, it would take a lot of trust and courage to be open about shadow
 
Same with me. I date and have bfs, but I keep my lifestyle with shadow a super secret. I have never been able to be honest about it for fear of well…everything. I am not sure if it is because I am keeping it a secret and there is some effect, but I haven’t had any really long term relationships so it hasn’t been a big problem

If I do meet someone I think is amazing for me and a good fit, it would take a lot of trust and courage to be open about shadow
If you trust someone implicitly then its ok to share but how many times did you trust someone in the past and get burnt over less important things?
 
Same with me. I date and have bfs, but I keep my lifestyle with shadow a super secret. I have never been able to be honest about it for fear of well…everything. I am not sure if it is because I am keeping it a secret and there is some effect, but I haven’t had any really long term relationships so it hasn’t been a big problem

If I do meet someone I think is amazing for me and a good fit, it would take a lot of trust and courage to be open about shadow
It would be amazing to find someone that enjoys it and not have to keep it a secret, but being a little older I gave up on finding a significant other to share it with awhile ago. If I knew about this site about 10 years ago I probably would have been more patient in hopes of finding someone.
 
I have a lot of experience with this. I have to hide a lot more than just my sexual interests because of a really bad relationship, so I know a lot about keeping secrets (and in my case the SO is very nosey and investigative and interrogative and goes searching for things to be mad about.

The big thing is you should really think about your safety. Maybe he is putting on a front, or maybe he isn't and it could seriously impact your life negatively if he found out. You could be outted, or even turned into the police if they follow through with what they said. That's a lot of risk. You can try to feel him out more and see if it is just a front, but if it isn't then proceed with caution, seriously.

The other big thing is will you really be comfortable holding that secret in for the rest of your days? The answer is certainly different for everyone, but for me that is far far too much stress. I have experienced it enough and won't any more when I am finally single again and looking for someone. At the very least for me is that they just accept it, even if they don't want to participate. I need to be loved for the full authentic me. Sure there are things your partner doesn't have to know about you, but my sexuality is a big one and I don't want to worry about it being hidden for the rest of my life, always living under the shadow of them somehow finding out and causing our relationship and my life to come crashing down. That's just me though. I don't like having to sneak and hide and lie all the time. I need to be able to be completely honest and open and not be viewed lesser because of it.

Are you a bad person? I think that's is very subjective. I don't think it makes you bad necessarily that you would pursue zoo experiences behind his back. It isn't exactly cheating to me. It is a lot like how I have to play video games behind my SOs back because she thinks they are stupid and doesn't want me to play them (she doesn't make as much of a fuss as long as she isn't around when I play, if she is home then attention has to be 100% on her).
 
Thank you for the post, I been married for 4 years now, but just recently discovered zoofilia. And it turns me on immensely watching people enjoy their boy or girl pets. She’s quite conservative sexually, I do enjoy sex with her and love her very much. But I feel I would regret it, if I don’t at least experience it once in my life
i’m not rly asking for actual advice but i’ve been thinking about this for a while and feel the need to talk about it!

i’ve been with my boyfriend for a while and i love him so much, i really wanna marry him in the future but i have to hide this side of me from him because he’s so, SOO against the idea of zoos. he says some nasty stuff about it a lot and has said so many times if he knew a zoo or was friends w one he’d report them to the police - and i’m just kind of sitting there pretending that i’m not a zoo in secret. i’ve never had any irl zoo experiences and i’m still trying to have one but having to hide it and sneak around my bf is exhausting, constantly erasing my porn history and only accessing this site thru incognito windows.

does that make me a bad person or am i just keeping myself safe?
 
Sounds like a terrible idea to tell him. Plus if you ever break up/get divorced he can use it against you as blackmail. Don’t put yourself in a weak position you may never recover from. Revealing your kink doesn’t make you a more committed lover unless you know he’s willing to try to accept it.
 
Everyone has such good thoughts on this. Part of the reason I keep things a secret is t is my secret. When I date someone I don’t tell him everything about me. He doesn’t know Julie much credit card debit I have or how much money I have in my savings account or things like that. He will know my favorite place for pizza and some of my favorite things sexually (with humans!) but I think it is natural and normal to keep some things a secret.

I don’t think my lifestyle is harmful so it is my secret to keep
 
Nothing wrong to hide it - thats just reality majority in society dont accept it and especially in your case if he already shows negative remarks & thoughts its wise to keep it that way your big secret to avoid conflict within your relationship. Netherless hope for you that he is more openminded towards this topic and you can finally be open with him about this :)
 
i’m not rly asking for actual advice but i’ve been thinking about this for a while and feel the need to talk about it!

i’ve been with my boyfriend for a while and i love him so much, i really wanna marry him in the future but i have to hide this side of me from him because he’s so, SOO against the idea of zoos. he says some nasty stuff about it a lot and has said so many times if he knew a zoo or was friends w one he’d report them to the police - and i’m just kind of sitting there pretending that i’m not a zoo in secret. i’ve never had any irl zoo experiences and i’m still trying to have one but having to hide it and sneak around my bf is exhausting, constantly erasing my porn history and only accessing this site thru incognito windows.

does that make me a bad person or am i just keeping myself safe?
While I am sure that all of us here at Zooville are in awe that you’re in love with this non zoo person. The question we all should be asking is what would he do should he find out that you’re an alien? Lol
Do you think he would leave you? Do you think he would let you do you zoo things with your zoo friends? Because ultimately he’s the one that is going to be “hurt” one because he was never told.
 
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