I'm pretty new to all this.... (wrt exploring the zoo scene & this site) - but reckon you'd wanna good at listening to your gut!
As yet I've not actually tried to find any kindred spirits (so actually know bugger all).... however, seeing I've had a few tonite & maybe
if I did meet someone I thought could be into it & wanted to find out.... what would I do?
Hmmmm, a bit of a tricky chat to have that one!.... could be a bit dodgey.... end up bit embarrassing
But if it was me, well I think I'd be wanting to use humour (& lots of it), alcohol (ditto) with a few choice phrases which could be taken a couple of different ways.... but keep it all very light,
Take on a "Saaf London" accent - pra'ps a li-awl bit a' cockn'y n'all...... an' you can get away wif sayin' bloody anyfing!"
Get a bit of cheeky banter going (about the last British sporting or political disaster - usually plenty to choose from) & slip the phrase "Get knotted!" into your conversation.
For any who are maybe not aware, Brits sometimes say this when they wanna tell someone 'where they can go.....".
"Go on, get Knotted mate! "
Use it initially in reference to a 3rd party so as not offend anyone present, then try lightly & jokingly use it a couple of times in the conversation - ie tell them a story where you ended up telling yer boss or some other bloke to "get knotted mate!" (-_-)
Or try using it in a question "so what d'you do next? Tell 'em to get knotted 'eh" - & be looking at them dead in the eye precisely when you say the 2 words so you can look for any physical response / limbic reaction.
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How's the banters' flowing? If yer avin' a laugh" try telling the suspect directly something like "nah mate, I'd tell ya' to get knotted"
Or tmaybe take the piss out of the suspect (as Brits seem to like to) & then say "Sorry mate - jus' tell me to go get knotted if you've had enough" & see if they do! Get creative, see where the conversation takes you..... or you take it....!
But before any of that chat happens, reckon I'd also be checking I had a clear path to the nearest exit in case things go pear-shaped!
Good luck!