34M from BC

[thepainter]

Hi everyone,
I'm finally returning home after a decade away from the family during a marriage that required me to hide this part of my life. Some of the old BF members may remember the user name from the days the chat was active?. Looking forward to reconnecting with people and feeling some sense of normalcy again as much as we can feel 'normal'. Feel free to message and chat I'm very social for a shut in ?

 

[Miss ZW]

Well, welcome back to the family. ? Sorry to hear about the forced exile from your zoo side. I hope things weren’t too messy with that whole situation. Much luck to you in rekindling those old connections and making some new ones. ?

 

[thepainter]

Well, welcome back to the family. ? Sorry to hear about the forced exile from your zoo side. I hope things weren’t too messy with that whole situation. Much luck to you in rekindling those old connections and making some new ones. ?

Nah not to messy at all, she had a much darker secret than I was keeping appearently. I filed and we settled without much issue.
Thank you I am glad to be back. Hopefully I can make some meaningful connections here and finally start living again

 

[Miss ZW]

Nah not to messy at all, she had a much darker secret than I was keeping appearently. I filed and we settled without much issue.
Thank you I am glad to be back. Hopefully I can make some meaningful connections here and finally start living again

Well, I’m glad to hear it wasn’t too messy then. Still sucks though I hope everything is well.

Hooray for living again! ???

 

[thepainter]

Well, I’m glad to hear it wasn’t too messy then. Still sucks though I hope everything is well.

Hooray for living again! ???

Overall muchhhhhh happier. Huge restructure of my life though, entering into the dating bool and our trying to meet people in my 30s when I left the dating pool at 24 feels a lot like the first day of highschool ? slots changed in a decade

 

[Miss ZW]

Overall muchhhhhh happier. Huge restructure of my life though, entering into the dating bool and our trying to meet people in my 30s when I left the dating pool at 24 feels a lot like the first day of highschool ? slots changed in a decade

I myself have never been in the dating pool. That water looks awfully disgusting. And I can’t swim very well. I’ll just hang out over here on the park bench looking over at that dating pool wondering why there’s so much crying going on over there. And why it smells like axe body spray. I wish you all the luck with traversing those waters. ?

 

[thepainter]

I myself have never been in the dating pool. That water looks awfully disgusting. And I can’t swim very well. I’ll just hang out over here on the park bench looking over at that dating pool wondering why there’s so much crying going on over there. And why it smells like axe body spray. I wish you all the luck with traversing those waters. ?

It's true the dating pool these days is a cess pool. Hookup culture seems like it's ruined people. Everyone's looking for the next upgrade and bolts at the slightest anything really can't even call it hardship. I envy your ability to stay out of it and be happy

 

[Miss ZW]

It's true the dating pool these days is a cess pool. Hookup culture seems like it's ruined people. Everyone's looking for the next upgrade and bolts at the slightest anything really can't even call it hardship. I envy your ability to stay out of it and be happy

So I’ve seen. I know the internet will typically just show you the worst of humanity but damn. There’s a lot of the worst out there in the dating world. Nobody wants to work for something good anymore I guess. My parents have been together since high school. I don’t really remember them ever fighting or arguing about anything but which way the toilet paper roll goes. And that just turns into a debate stage of putting their points of view out there for review and considerations.

I think too many people also just jump into things too soon. Not everyone is gonna be like my parents and just find their forever person so quickly. I decided early on that I’ll probably never find anyone that would be my forever person like my parents are for each other. So why bother going through all the crap just to more than likely be disappointed and hurt. I’m content with being single.

 

[thepainter]

So I’ve seen. I know the internet will typically just show you the worst of humanity but damn. There’s a lot of the worst out there in the dating world. Nobody wants to work for something good anymore I guess. My parents have been together since high school. I don’t really remember them ever fighting or arguing about anything but which way the toilet paper roll goes. And that just turns into a debate stage of putting their points of view out there for review and considerations.

I think too many people also just jump into things too soon. Not everyone is gonna be like my parents and just find their forever person so quickly. I decided early on that I’ll probably never find anyone that would be my forever person like my parents are for each other. So why bother going through all the crap just to more than likely be disappointed and hurt. I’m content with being single.

I know where you're coming from all to well ? always just saw what my parents had and wanted the same. To bad it seems like most people today would rather split than work through a problem. It's like everyone is searching for it to just fit perfect the first time effortlessly rather than it being about the flexibility that our parents had that allowed them to just roll with the punches as it were.

 

[Miss ZW]

I know where you're coming from all to well ? always just saw what my parents had and wanted the same. To bad it seems like most people today would rather split than work through a problem. It's like everyone is searching for it to just fit perfect the first time effortlessly rather than it being about the flexibility that our parents had that allowed them to just roll with the punches as it were.

100%. Either people are just hoping to find that perfect fit without effort, or they’re just looking for anyone they find conventionally attractive, regardless of other factors. They just hope that that person being hot will be enough for them. And it never is.

 

[Makzoo]

Welcome back buddy

 

[dogsexromania]

Even a perfect 100% fit isnt enough. Problems do arise internal ones external ones. There is a saying in a part of the country where i live. You dont marry someone until u have been on mt such and such with him, its 2000+ meter mountain, and if ure hasty or a dumbass that is dangerous , if u can rely on him or her in a life and death situation u can invest time and energy in that relation.
i honestly dont know where this idea came from that there is that perfect relationship where u just have fun all day and no problems arise, i mean even hollywood isnt this deranged.
And having a dog love you certainly makes u wonder why u bother with ppl in the first place.

 

[thepainter]

100%. Either people are just hoping to find that perfect fit without effort, or they’re just looking for anyone they find conventionally attractive, regardless of other factors. They just hope that that person being hot will be enough for them. And it never is.

Absolute truth. The connection outside of the bedroom is what holds everything together after all it's how 99% of people's time together is actually spent especially after that honeymoon phase. Fun in the bedroom can always be taught/learned if people keep an open mind and communicate. The rest of it though like how people generally conduct their lives, their interests, and what makes them feel fulfilled can't really be changed or taught. That's just what makes the person who they are, and they become absolutely miserable if they try to fake it over time.

 

[dogsexromania]

Absolute truth. The connection outside of the bedroom is what holds everything together after all it's how 99% of people's time together is actually spent especially after that honeymoon phase. Fun in the bedroom can always be taught/learned if people keep an open mind and communicate. The rest of it though like how people generally conduct their lives, their interests, and what makes them feel fulfilled can't really be changed or taught. That's just what makes the person who they are, and they become absolutely miserable if they try to fake it over time.

I think even the outaide can be learned, a relationship is a compromise u give a little the other person gives a little. If someone cant ve botherred to learn and adapt and change hes gona be that guy or gal who wont understand why everyone runs from them.

 

[thepainter]

Even a perfect 100% fit isnt enough. Problems do arise internal ones external ones. There is a saying in a part of the country where i live. You dont marry someone until u have been on mt such and such with him, its 2000+ meter mountain, and if ure hasty or a dumbass that is dangerous , if u can rely on him or her in a life and death situation u can invest time and energy in that relation.
i honestly dont know where this idea came from that there is that perfect relationship where u just have fun all day and no problems arise, i mean even hollywood isnt this deranged.
And having a dog love you certainly makes u wonder why u bother with ppl in the first place.

Absolutely, I can agree with that 100%. You find out who a person really is when you're in a high stress situation and wether or not you can depend on them. True love is putting the other person first always, lots of people cut tail and thing of their own self preservation first or completely fall to pieces in those situations

 

[thepainter]

I think even the outaide can be learned, a relationship is a compromise u give a little the other person gives a little. If someone cant ve botherred to learn and adapt and change hes gona be that guy or gal who wont understand why everyone runs from them.

Compromise yes, but I was speaking more to just what a person wants out of life/the way they want to be able to live under ideal circumstances. Some people are just incompatible on that level and you can only give up so much of your core values/dreams before you become miserable and the relationship untenable. Ironically so many people today want to make no compromise at all and become miserable anyway when they're left alone like you said. It's a weird 180 we have done in societal values these days

 

[dogsexromania]

Compromise yes, but I was speaking more to just what a person wants out of life/the way they want to be able to live under ideal circumstances. Some people are just incompatible on that level and you can only give up so much of your core values/dreams before you become miserable and the relationship untenable. Ironically so many people today want to make no compromise at all and become miserable anyway when they're left alone like you said. It's a weird 180 we have done in societal values these days

I see what u mean now, ye u cant give up to much , if u do its a lost cause. About the societal values , what the west and the us turned into lately is disgusting. I am happy i am far from it as pissible, eastern eu has its problems yes but the world isnt upside down at least. Look at the olimpic games , i aint a religious person but that travesty of an opening .... u know the hard times create strong men.... saying . Well are at the fall of the roman empire moment so ye great times ahead ?